Hello NoFap community! I have some questions that may have been addressed before, but these are my thoughts and concerns regarding a couple subjects, so thanks in advance for your help. I started my reboot three days ago on the 15th of this month October. I had tried once last year, but I wasn't as serious or interested as I am now. My reasons for returning to NoFap are: - To gain control over compulsive behaviours and break any addictive tendencies. My behaviours are not extreme, but they still are related to that seeking to fill personal voids. - To increase personal self-worth, confidence, and vital energy to envision and create the life I want. - To gain a new perspective on personal values and codes of conduct that may serve others beyond just myself. My first question is regarding how you guys deal with your ejaculatory control during or after reboot when engaging in sex. My last intercourse activity was with my most recent girlfriend about three weeks ago, and a part of our breakup was due to that I was losing my ejaculatory control to an unusual degree towards the end of our relationship, resulting in dissatisfying sex for both us after a majority of good sex. Perhaps the lose of ejaculatory control at the end of that relationship was a sign of bigger things like the dysfunction between us or the issues in myself that I'm now deciding to deal with as a result of being dumped by someone I loved, which has led me to NoFap, but now I'm in what I'm seeing is refered to as "hard mode," no PMO, not even with a partner at this time. Despite my 12 year history with porn, I think I'll be ok in the long run without it, but I'm worried that as a result of NoFap, whatever other benefits may come, I'm going to have even less ejaculatory control when I'm sexually active again. Despite now recognizing how energetically drained I was as a result of my masturbation habits, I was under the impression that regular masturbation could act like "endurance training" for sex, so if a person is not masturbating and then they get to a time of sexual activity, would a guy be so backed up that they ejaculate right away? On the other hand, I'm really interested in learning more about how people say that a man's vitality is in his seed. I've heard that in regards to metaphysical areas of study, so what does it mean? Is it really true that conserving semen will increase our personal power and well-being? Then what would that mean for how we choose our partners and for setting a healthy pace for our sex lives, and if masturbation would ever have any place in that again? Regarding that most recent relationship, we were having sex almost nightly for a good while, so I wonder how that may have depleted my/our vital powers, especially as our connection became distorted. I think that's everything I wanted to say. Once again, thanks for your help in advance.
