Pride issues and feeling inferior around other men

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by skyheart, Aug 30, 2014.

  1. skyheart

    skyheart Fapstronaut

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    Going on 60 days nofap, been up and down. Sure, I have felt positive surges of confidence in the last 30 days. But there's one pattern keeps cycling in that used to happen only after I M.

    I begin to feel inferior and deflated around other men. Especially when it comes to men with women. If someone else is getting chicks (or in a relationship) and I'm not (because I'm trying to reboot my relationship with women), I get resentful and puff up in pride (which limits relationship with men), but really I'm just insecure and feeling inferior.

    I would usually M in order to feel that sense of power, I'm now realizing. What suggestions do y'all have? This week I've been sick, so no gym which has probably contributed to lower self-confidence and less good vibes...
     
  2. prioritymail

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    The only thing I could suggest is to not worry about what other guys are doing because it doesn't matter. In other words, don't worry about things outside your control. Focus on YOU and everything will work itself out.
     
  3. NoJunk

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    You should never compare yourself to others! And other people have their own problems. Maybe it's not addiction to PMO, but nobody is flawless or perfect. And nobody feels good all the time. But some people are just really good in hiding that. They seem to be happy and they seem to "have it all", but inside they might feel horrible and as insecure as you. And as unbelieveable it sounds, men who get most sex can also be the most insecure ones. They need women to feel good. That isn't really so different from PMO-addiction. It's in fact worse because it most likely hurts other people as well. Sex addiction can destroy families and relationships. So don't envy guys who get a lot of girls!

    But i'm struggeling with the same thing. I also tend to feel inferior to other guys because i don't have girlfriends and because I'm addicted to PMO. But I know it's not a right way to feel. I'm not inferior. I'm just as flawed as they are. My problem is just different from their problems. There is nothing bad or wrong about it. And I don't have to beat myself up because of it. It's important to feel merciful towards yourself and remember all the good things that you have in your personality.
     
  4. Mystical•Citra

    Mystical•Citra Fapstronaut

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    I would suggest Aphrodisiac herbs like GINSENG, HORNY GOAT WEED, YOHIMBE, MACA, ASHWAGANDHA, GINKGO, SHATAVARI, GINGER, any of these will surely help in those down times
     
  5. Mystical•Citra

    Mystical•Citra Fapstronaut

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    Also lots of testosterone is stored in the legs so any leg workout that you can do at home like lunges would trigger some release!
     
  6. skyheart

    skyheart Fapstronaut

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    So true. It's really easy for me to have grace on others, but so so so tough to turn it on myself and give myself a break!! Understanding the similarities between all of us as humans and the different struggles that we have really helps me understand that I'm not inferior. At times when I'm alone it really feels like that. And the resentment, fear, and insecurity builds with intensity. Really needed to hear this. Thank you so much
     
  7. enoughnow

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    I know the feeling when you see another guy with a woman - it can feel like some kind of weird conspiracy against you if you have no partner. But all i can say is just live in hope that things can change.
     
  8. Clumsy

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    I had this too, it disappeared when I stopped masturbation. It's one of the many consequences of violating the laws of nature. I hope you don't feel bad now, just reform. You will rise. I believe in you.

    Good luck
     

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