Question for women

it is odd i don't think most guys have these obsessions. i think these fetishes are caused by the fucked up brain on p

 

you can be clear of these thoughts. keep fighting, it takes time but you will be clear from it and able to live sexual life in measure and healthy way. do not give up. I believe in you

 

I can't really say much, as I don't know many men, leaving alone talking about fetishes. Still, I've been around in a subculture called "Furry", and here - anything goes. And I mean anything (gore, rape, incest etc). I met mostly male artist drawing furry P, and then mostly male audience of said P. But I gotta agree with @green lion eating the sun - the more P you consume, the more screwed your brain gets, and then the more and worse P-graphic materials you need in order to get to the same level of arousal and release. Been there, done that.
And like @green lion eating the sun said, you can be free of that, get back on healthy track and enjoy healthy S life. You gotta tell yourself that you go clean and stand with it strong. Someone may say - but that is sooooooo vanilla, why not throw in something new, something to enhance the S experience? It's okay to try new things, but when you step over a certain line, and now you pretty much sexualize everything because you can't get any arousal or satisfaction, and without implementing all those fetishes you won't get anywhere - man, you gotta go back to vanilla. By all means, try new things with yourself, with your partner, but keep a healthy measure in it. I even heard stories in which a fetish was so strong, that the person couldn't get anywhere unless partner beaten them until they bled. That's much over the line if you ask me.
But all of above applies very generally and anyone, regardless of their gender and sexuality, can have. So I wouldn't say it's just men's fetishes. I encountered female P audience who enjoyed the same fetishes you listed in your question. I guess that's a pretty common stuff to sexualize, since it's just an every day thing you can have at any time.

 

And they aren't even the bad ones! Currently the most popular search term in google relating to porn is

Spoiler: Caution

Teen Sex

which obviously leads on to other options and desires for people. Violence, aggression, power and control are so common in todays porn that it is now a far cry from the days of playboy centre folds.

People get into a state of being 'comfortably numb' with online porn because of the fact they are behind a screen and assume that they are anonymous (which they aren't) You should ask the question, 'did you have these fetishes or thoughts before you started viewing online porn' ? if the answer is no, then it's most likely the fact you have desensitised yourself to the content you may have started out viewing, allowing yourself to believe that the stuff you progressed on to is not harmful because well 'it's just pictures and videos, they're over 18 and everyone watches porn right?'

When you abstain you will realise what you really want, you wont find it with porn.

 

It's good that you are starting your journey away from porn now, before it progresses on to worse risk taking behaviour. Trust me you don't want to be where I ended up. I almost landed myself in prison because of how my fetishes developed. I wouldn't get too worked up about viewing stuff that is in the realms of legality but often people do end up breaking the law when the get bored of the legal stuff. You have the rest of your life to look forward to and a future to build and it's up to you to decide if you want porn to be a part of that.

 

I gotta agree with @thorswrath32 - it really does latch onto you, you start developing fondness for things you haven't known before you wandered into realm of constant P viewing. I observed how much I got myself into because of that:

Spoiler: Man that's ugly!

Gore pornography, characters with oversized / gigantic body parts sex, physical abuse porn, huge amounts of body fluids (semen, vaginal mucus) porn, characters from kids' cartoons/movies porn, sexualized teenagers (my pool was 16 - 18 years old); I highly sexualized swimming suits for women, high heel shoes, purposefully seducing teenagers "since they have no experience, I can do whatever I want with them", sexualizing subcultures of emo, goth and punk

All that have dragged me to the point of being unable to see people as living, feeling beings. I used to go out for a sole purpose of getting down with anyone who dares to answer me. It was absolutely terrible. And I did that! And then I felt that mental filth-ness that I couldn't just wash off. I felt disgusted with myself and I felt disgusted by all those people who fell for my ill, selfish charms. Now that I am 20+ days off the P, I can finally feel myself and what I really wanted all along.
Staying clean really helps. You don't throw more wood into the fire that burns you - you finally step away and take care of all those wounds you've been sustaining.

 

u meant you watched or seen drawn this p called "furry" with all the most perverted stuff but also did it in real life? I don't understand. the"normal" p is filled with fake rape, incest and i guess more violent i wasn't into. we are all been subjected to this shit

btw one gotta stop with this. the desire of being "high" while having sex and requiring always a step forward is due to p, it is not due to the person. no one is born with fetishes, it is what p has done to our minds and it can be overcome. the mind needs to be recreated from scratch. it can be done. i have done it best 6 months of my life

 

@green lion eating the sun Please don't assume what I meant or I didn't, it's okay to ask for a further explanation ^.^
What I meant was that I was one on the audience of furry P graphic website (which markets itself as for everyone, but when you get through like 3 pages, you can see the majority of material here is nsfw). I wandered from one f**ked picture to another, also reading comments under those pictures to seek appropriation for my sick actions in comments of like-minded people. "Normal" P hardly appealed to me, so I found something else - in this case furry P - to get myself satisfied. And, just as "normal" P, furry one is filled with very much the same things AND WORSE, since it is hand-drawn and author can put anything into it, no limitations.
What I did take part in was quite different, but yes, I acted on my ill desires.

Spoiler: I am still disgusted when I think I did this

I made very blunt offers to people online, through which I gained 3 young guys, age about 17, to engage with me in sharing explicit photos of ourselves, making sex-oriented calls and video calls, constant sexting; I also went around provoking my friends to see if I can drag them to bed (I managed to get only one like that, a guy in a 4 years long relationship, made him cheat on his beloved with me); I lashed out at people who refused me access to themselves; I went out solely on a purpose of getting a spontaneous sex partner, disregarding the fact it was indeed, another human being who has feelings; I quite literally discarded people who already gave me what I wanted and I deemed them no longer beneficial to my desires.

And after all that, I felt filthy beyond redemption, and yet I did it again and again. Now I'm better than that, I can finally see and even hear what are my true desires. I am aiming to reconstruct myself in a healthy manner, so I can enjoy my future romantic and S life. No more ill and unrealistic fantasies.