Question time: How can I get rid of what I don’t want in life?

How am I complicit in creating the conditions in my life that I would have said I didn’t want?

That is a question Jerry Colonna talks about on Tim Ferris podcast episode 373. And I think it’s a very powerful question to ask yourself every now and then. Especially as nofappers trying to escape the clutches of addiction. So I did just that: I answered that question.


I got shit grades in high school because I did not find it interesting, which made it harder to get a university. Once in university I realized that it was not for me at all and dropped out with no game plan. I wanted to start a business but had no idea where to start and I had a depressing social life. Which lead me to use porn more and more.

Later on when my life improved I had many chances with lots of girls but said no in favor of a girl living in another country, which lead to a heartbreak. When my uncle came to Zambia and became my business mentor I could have asked him to help me get a job, which he advised me to do. But I did not and was broke for a long period of time.

That fucked with my social and dating life. When I came to Rwanda a friend offered to help me get a job and I said no because I was working on a business that failed before it started. I am broke again. Making my social life and dating life difficult.


BY asking myself that question it forces me to look at my choice in life and how they impacted me today. Jerry says that using the word complicit instead of responsibility it lifts some of the pressure you might put on your self. This may work for some of you guys but me I prefer the word responsibility. We are all different.


Ask this question of your self and it relates to all the areas of life, from personal, to school, work, health, social life, intimate relationships, and even nofap. If you find this overwhelming remember to use the word complicit instead of responsible. Make a list of the things that you don’t want. Next to each one write down which ones can be changed, managed, reduced, or eliminated. Then you write down how you will change, manage, reduced, or eliminate.


Let me give you an example of my choices. For finical situation I am helping an uncle with his business and getting paid for that, I will use the money to start my own business. Then for my testosterone I can mange what I eat, exercise, and sleep. Anxiety I can reduce it by staying in the moment and focusing on what I can change. Then for time management I only focus on what I can change or control directly.


We are all different; some of us need to be kind to ourselves while others need to be ruthless. So down below tell me how you are complicit in creating a life you don’t want?
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I THINK YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT THE LAW OF ATTRACTION. READ THESE TWO WEB PAGES ON LAW OF ATTRACTION AND YOU WILL FIND THE ANSWER. GOOD LUCK.

https://www.jackcanfield.com/blog/using-the-law-of-attraction/

https://www.thewisdompost.com/law-of-attraction/7-simple-steps-use-law-attraction-life/1265