quick query regards rebooting

Given the time-varying element from individual to individual as you allow, I would say the rough timescale is 90-day hard reboot, as advocated on the site. I know someone who did 90+ day soft reboot, and it wasn't quite enough; he's now committing to 90-day hard reboot, as commonly suggested across this site.

 

I also agree with the 90 day estimate ±30 days as the site advocates. Habit formation, related though not what you are asking about directly, can easily have a huge variance (say 65 days on average, ranging 18-255 for example depending on the habit).

Conservativism is a good principle to apply here. To that end I have seen discussion that says after a reboot, don't branch out on your own until at least a year clean. I may not go hard mode an entire year, but I definitely plan to keep my accountability metrics and reboot weapons of choice sharpened at least that long. There is a difference in the amount of time it takes to break an addiction (shorter) and the time it takes for proper rewiring (in my opinion much much longer). For many , the addiction may last a lifetime and require vigilance through the years.

 

physically, I feel rebooted every time within 30-90 days. I'm not currently having sex with my wife, but that is due to other problems. I am convinced that the near future will improve in that regard. I am and have been capable for awhile.
My biggest issue and I don't know whether its the holiday season or my coming job change. Depression. Out of no where, childhood issues have come to the forefront. I realize that fapping was my pain pill for a lifetime of emotional abuse by a very strange father. Sad that I now feel and deal with it at 54 yrs of age. Porn and masturbation are no longer options. I will fill that void other ways, like I did quitting cigarettes and pot. I expect a long year of learning new ways of dealing with my emotions. My counter is incorrect. I lapsed in early Oct. 5x's. But I look at May3rd as my major latest start date. I have a win column- loss column mentality style.
I have come to rely heavily on this site as well as YBOP. The information and inputs from everybody are priceless.

 

For me only on day 66 I started seeing a change in the frequency and strength of my urges around day 40. RMV I started to notice less internal fear or failing most acutely while riding my motorcycle in turns. It's funny I used to get knots in my stomach trying to keep up with a group through the twisties. I started noticing a change in internal (fear) focus after just a few weeks. Now I can run through a complicated set of turns and not have to fight a fear or concern if I do this wrong I am going to die. I feel strong and more confident now but I'm working out daily which I certainly think plays a strong role in my emotional state. I also have 3 friends that now know everything about my life they knew nothing about me prior to the start of my NoFap journey. I have been able to process a lot of negative events in my life using them as sounding boards. The sharing with them of so many crucial points in my life has assisted me in uncovering a number of lies I was believing about myself and others around me. So NoFap has helped a bit but the steps that I am taking to Kill PMO in my journey the tools and friends I have added to my life since the start of my journey here are I believe where I am seeing the most benefit.

 

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