Ready to be done

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by zavenwycliffe, Jul 15, 2015.

  1. zavenwycliffe

    zavenwycliffe Fapstronaut

    I've been on nofap for a while now, and I've been struggling. My longest streak was 66 days, but since then I haven't been consistent at all. I had so much motivation and purpose at the beginning but I just feel like I don't care anymore. I have no idea why the motivation is gone--so want to hear your reason for quitting porn. What is the biggest thing that motivates you to keep going?
  2. You want to be known in life as a progressive, accomplished individual. You don't want to be looking at past pictures of yourself and the title "wanker" comes to your head.

    Imagine if you were in Vivaldi's place and Benedict comes to shoot you, and instead of calling you a stupid spaghetti-slurping cretin, he calls you a "stupid wanking couch potato who always complains that nobody (no real women) wants me" and then takes you out:

    Don't let PMO take over your life and take you out as a victim.
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  3. It's about being real and looking at the bigger picture.

    You have to sit down and ask yourself if you really want PMO to be a part of your life for good or not. You can't just look at the present, but you need to look at the future as well. Ask yourself questions such as, "what type of man do I want to be in five years time?" "What do I want my life to look like?"

    NoFap isn't a joke or a gimmick, it's one big difficult decision that a man has to make. Do I actually want to do this or not? It changes your life. So before assuming that this is something you want to do in your mind, find out if this is something you really want to do, on a soul level. The mind can say one thing, but your soul knows what it really wants. Many think in their minds that they want to do nofap, but you can tell from them that in their soul they just want to fap all day and not really make a sincere commitment to change. So honestly, this just starts by being real with ourselves.

    I'm finally at a point in my life, where I actually want to stop now. There's a difference between thinking you want to change, and actually knowing that you want to finally change. Something in you has to click. You have to be absolutely fucking tired of the same shit in your life day in and day out. You have to come to some sort of realisation that PMO messes up mens life and even how they relate to women, sexually, emotionally and everything else. That alone is reason to want to change.

    When you finally decide to give up PMO, you'll just do it and you'll never PMO again.

    If you don't want to give it up, then you wont and you'll continue to relapse.

    Allow yourself to even work through the emotions as to why you even want to be part of nofap. Be real with yourself on all fronts. Then once you get past that question, find out the real reasons why you use PMO as an outlet in the first place, instead of just processing the underlying emotions as to why you PMO. The proper way to get through PMO is through Emotional Processing. As soon as the craving comes, just sit there with that intense feeling and just simply allow it to pass and exit your body without acting upon. All types of causal emotions and reasons for wanting to PMO will come up. The idea is to just allow yourself to work through and feel those emotions in it's entirety.
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  4. zavenwycliffe

    zavenwycliffe Fapstronaut

    Thanks! That was just what I needed
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  5. Pixelated Victory

    Pixelated Victory Fapstronaut

    My reason for quitting porn is: discovering the real meaning behind sex and relationships with women. I'm 19 and all I've ever known in my pubescent life is masturbating and porn. I've had sexual experiences with girls, but I was still ejaculating once or twice a day during those times releasing my sexual tension via my hand. I WANT to experience sex on its most natural level with another human being. I am tired of using my hand to satisfy my horniness. That displays weak behavior.

    I want to know what my factory settings are. Like I said, I don't know what they are. Ever since I've began having sexual feelings when I hit puberty I have jerked off. I was raised in a generation where porn became unbelievably typical for teenage boys. Not using that as an excuse for my bad habit, but since all my friends did it and talked about it, then it was OK right? Wrong. I'm 19 now, pretty much completely physically transitioned into a man, but emotionally I have work to do. PMO and masturbation is holding me back from making that leap to being a complete man. But I'm 8 days clean. And I will beat this no matter how many times I fall down.
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  6. SkyDoge

    SkyDoge Fapstronaut

    I quit because it hurts my girlfriend's feelings and I need to be able to look her in the eye and say I don't look at porn and don't need it, and have it be true.

    Even if you don't have a girlfriend, your future girlfriend will not want you to look at porn.

    Romance and having somebody to grow old with is everything in this life to me. I want to be the kind of husband my wife brags about
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  7. msa2388

    msa2388 Fapstronaut

    Well I have porn induced ED. Being with a real partner again is motivation. I want to get a little better before I go down the romantic road again.

    It sounds really cheesy but I just keep imagining the perfect person out there for me, and what it would be like if they were laying next to me.

    PMO has stolen that from me....the deep human need for companionship and intimacy. It's not just one of many things we's one of two things we definitely need! (Food being número uno).

    That's my main motivation. The other is I was going down very dark roads and really was beginning to scare myself. There's no way I'm going back to that person and letting myself turn into someone different. I'm a kind, caring individual at the end of the day...I always give people the benefit of the doubt and help where ever I can. I'm a good person and I was turning into a monster....I finally had enough. That's it for me really...hope this helps and I hope you find your motivation too.

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