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Relapsed.. for the first time since nofap

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by stay_strong, Jan 17, 2015.

  1. Jan 17, 2015 #1
    stay_strong

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    Almost 17 days in and i've already fapped :mad:
    It was going great - i hadn't fapped or watched P since the 31st of december 2014 (when i started nofap on this site)and today... today i did it.
    It's just that i was so happy with myself. I felt like things were going great. I felt more confident. I was more organized. And now.. poof. All gone- down the drain.
    I wanted 2015 to be the year that i changed- a new beginning. But i feel so hopeless. Like i won't be like i was, not gonna feel like i did, the past two weeks.
    The past couple of weeks were amazing for me.
    Now, i know it's useless to linger on how i wasn't able to keep up the streak and feel utterly bitter, so i'm not going to.
    However, it's not going to be easy. I would really appreciate it if you could post your experience or any tips that could help me. Thanks a looooot. :D
     
    stay_strong, Jan 17, 2015
    stay_strong, Jan 17, 2015
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  2. Jan 17, 2015 #2
    CrossGlow

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    There will always be setbacks, but you have to realize you are capable of happiness, confidence, efficiency, etc... with or without porn.

    It was your conscious decision to do better things with your time and better your life - fapping once in a while or setting back your counter isn't going to change that.
     
    CrossGlow, Jan 17, 2015
    CrossGlow, Jan 17, 2015
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  3. Jan 17, 2015 #3
    cud

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    Relapsing is part of the healing process. Going hardmode is for someone probably very difficult, impossible - at least for me so far :).

    Take a lesson from this experience, find your triggers and avoid them as much as possible. I did have a urge today - I went to check this page out, and really helps.

    Keep yourself busy and avoid being alone, well at least when you ´re on the web. For me - sitting on computer means work and fapping. So i get my job done - shut it down and play my guitar :). I am doing this to get back my selfconfidence - taking small steps and feeling everyday greater! Mark your goals and follow them...

    Hope this helps!

    Keep at it! It is worthy!
     
    cud, Jan 17, 2015
    cud, Jan 17, 2015
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  4. Jan 17, 2015 #4
    Nofapnoo

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    Dude, here's what I am gonna say.

    You are WRONG!

    You think it's all gone, all you have accomplished has vanished, but that's not the truth. Far from it. The truth is that you have made to 17 days and you have learned how Nofap can improve your life quality so drastically. Also there are definitely some concrete recovery during these 17 days, they DON"T VANISH just for one relapse. However, if you keep the mindset that you have totally fucked up, and you just let go and you fap several more times, then you really FUCK YOURSELF UP.

    Learn from the experience and WRITE DOWN what you are going to behave differently to avoid relapsing, and follow what you decide to do, period.

    Good luck!
     
    Nofapnoo, Jan 17, 2015
    Nofapnoo, Jan 17, 2015
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  5. Jan 19, 2015 #5
    stay_strong

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    Guys, thanks so much for all the support and words of encouragement.
    Yeah, i've been keeping a positive mindset so far and i haven't thought about fapping at all. Hopefully, this will continue.
    Before, whenever i would open up my laptop, it would eventually lead to fapping. However, this hasn't been the case so far.

    @CrossGlow- I do believe that it's no use to keep thinking negatively (in fact i used to be quite pessimistic - i'm working on it currently) and so far its great. I realize that i am in control of my life and i can choose how i want to lead it.

    and @cud i have been trying to find triggers and its helping :D ! It indeed is difficult but definitely not impossible. I've been trying different things to compensate for the time i have because of nofap (although i would like to study, i haven't been able to do that :( any tips?)

    @Nofapnoo: You're right- i need to start looking at the positive aspect and impact nofap has had on me and continue/persevere, instead of complaining to myself. And although i've heard this in more talks and received this as advice more times than i can remember, I really feel like this is one of the hardest things for me to do- sit my ass down ;) to write stuff down.

    All the best to all of you guys.
    I really can't quite express exactly how much you guys help just by being part of the nofap community.
     
    stay_strong, Jan 19, 2015
    stay_strong, Jan 19, 2015
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  6. Jan 19, 2015 #6
    Eric Forman

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    Whatever you do, DO NOT touch yourself! Best tip ever for me.
     
    Eric Forman, Jan 19, 2015
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  7. Jan 19, 2015 #7
    Broken_made_new

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    All is not lost. I too relapsed on my 17th. Dust yourself off and try again. You will get better at this. I could be an acountability partner through this site. I still have a ways to go myself.

    Dilliot2k
     
    Broken_made_new, Jan 19, 2015
    Broken_made_new, Jan 19, 2015
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  8. Jan 20, 2015 #8
    stay_strong

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    haha Eric Forman, I'll keep that in mind ;) i'm sure it'll help

    and dt2k, let's use private message to discuss further.
     
    stay_strong, Jan 20, 2015
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  9. Jan 20, 2015 #9
    CeeDiggity

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    rubixcube, I know how you feel. I started a few days before Christmas, I don't remember the exact date. I was going strong, and then it happened. And the next day it happened again. I am back to thinking that I can do it. The last two days were weird, because I kept making all these rationalizations with my self. We can do this. I had reached a breaking point, and instead of fighting harder I gave in. Please don't quit, please don't feel like it was all for nothing.
     
    CeeDiggity, Jan 20, 2015
    CeeDiggity, Jan 20, 2015
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