Repeated failures.

Same shoes...I cant be sober for more than 2 days and its really hard to achieve these 2 days too. We have to be stronger,brother and keep going

 

That was me several months ago. Couldn’t go a day or so without it. Now I’m complaining because I can’t get much past 14 days. And I have managed 30 once. If you keep trying and don’t give up it can happen. I have been upset cuz I can’t get past 30, but seeing this post reminded me that I used to not get past a couple days, then it led to a week, then two, and then I usually reset. But 1 day down is progress. Just keep making those days multiply.

 

If you don’t know what healthy O is I don’t think I your ready. If you use P material in your head even they say your brain still thinks your looking at it. If you can picture a girl you know and you see her, and you, then I’m wondering if that can be “healthy” as well.

But In general I don’t think it’s very healthy for us males to touch ourselves at all. I’ve heard many arguments stating both sides.

 

What's your triggers that keep leading you back to the habit of PMO. What are your trying to coup with? When these triggers happen, what else can you do to coup? Build a plan, write it down, review the plan daily, stay to the plan no matter what. If a new trigger is found revise your plan to deal with it. If you slip get up, don't beat yourself up leading to needing relief from feeling back, which leads back to PMO. Don't give up, keep moving forward.

What is your source of your porn? what ever that is, get rid of it. Mine was my computer, so I stopped using it for 60 days. Now I only use it for short times to do things I can only do on the computer. I use my tablet most of the time and since I'm a collector the tablet just doesn't have the memory or power to satisfy my desires so it not an issue with me use the tablet. That's based on many years of looking back on my self and understanding my habits and routine.

Also, we as men are visual, we need to control our eyes even outside the P-sites. Which means stop looking and lusting after women even if they are clothed. Yes that means the girl walking in tight jeans in front of you, the big breasted girl walking toward you, billboards, sexy TV ad, etc. All these things rev up our motors and lead us back to P. P then leads to M and O. Control your eyes, will lead to controlling your thoughts, which will lead to controlling your life. I know this sounds crazy, we men look it in our nature, its who we are. But I've been doing this for over 70 days now. I still see these women in these sexy outfits but I'm learning to quickly turn my eyes. Don't let thoughts build up and how this or that. I look only to my wife. I'm not perfect, but each day I get better.

This is what ever it takes, to get clean and stay clean.

 

I have noticed on my journey lately I have stopped lustfully checking out women as much as I used to. Which is something I never thought I would do. I mean don’t get me wrong I still look. But it seems like I used to stare at anything I could see. But like mentioned above, that’s a huge trigger for me and would usually cause me to reset as well.

 

It's a good step to realize that PMO is a central problem in your life. This means fighting it should be your #1 priority. Start small. Commit to one week of nofap. Look into mirror and say it out loud every morning for 7 days. Good luck.

 

I couldn’t go more than a couple days when I first started. I suffered a big loss in my opinion and it struck a cord with me. From that point I went on a big streak until I relapsed. I’m almost at a week. Do you ever post on the daily intention thread. It really helped me.

 

We all have or had fetishes. Plus, your brain doesn't "need" it, like it needs food or air. My aim is not to correct your writing though. It's just that words and intentions matter, a lot. It's good that you have acknowledged that you are an addict, but you should also acknowledge that you can stop being an addict, if you work towards that goal.

Have you tried exercising and meditating as alternative sources of dopamine? They may not give you "hits", but they do provide smaller but longer lasting pleasure. Also, you can commit to a hobby with your girlfriend, such as learning how to dance or cook. These can also give you joy, and you can have a stronger bond with your girlfriend.