Self-forgiveness increases accountability

mcrcvrng · Nov 20, 2016

Just read this in the willpower book: (in my signature)

If you think that the key to greater willpower is being harder on yourself, you are not alone. But you are wrong. Study after study shows that self-critcism is consistently associated with less motivation and worse self-control. It is also one of the single biggest predictors of depression, which drains both "I will" power and "I want" power. In contrast, self-compassion—being supportive and kind to yourself, especially in the face of stress and failure—is associated with more motivation and better self-control.

... How can this be, when so many of us have a strong intuition that self-criticism is the cornerstone of self-control, and self-compassion is a slippery slope to self-indulgence? What would motivate these students if not feeling bad for procrastinating the last time? And what would keep us in check if we didn’t feel guilty for giving in?

Surprisingly, it’s forgiveness, not guilt, that increases accountability. Researchers have found that taking a self-compassionate point of view on a personal failure makes people more likely to take personal responsibility for the failure than when they take a self-critical point of view. They also are more willing to receive feedback and advice from others, and more likely to learn from the experience.
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I Free I · Nov 21, 2016

mcrcvrng said: ↑

Just read this in the willpower book:
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Very interesting, this makes so much sense . I appreciate this post and would like to say thank you ...

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