Sexual fantasizing is a form of Pornography. Sexual fantasizing is the root, porn is the crown.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by ultrafabber, Oct 31, 2018.

  1. Man08

    Man08 Fapstronaut

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    I had the same problem for 8 years, imagine, before sleep or even when I got bored, I would start to imagine myself doing sex with imaginary ( sometimes real ) girls, then, I started to meditate.For the first time in 8 years I found out that I was addicted to this "hobby" of mine, for the first time in 8 years I finally became aware of what I was doing, then, I stopped.Now, I found myself with a very big and empty space in my mind, this space was occupied by my "hobby".Imagine, when I stopped, it was time to sleep, but I had no idea at what else to think about, then, it hit me, why not to use this free time to meditate? So, here I am, almost two weeks of continous meditation before sleep.I also found out how tired I was after a session of dreaming at naked girls, it really sucked my energy like a vacuum cleaner.

    I feel no desire to dream about naked girls, now, I know that I was living a lie, an illusion.

    Take it from me, I have 8 years of experience, don't do it anymore, this is the biggest trigger and trick that gets you back to P and M.Every time you do something like this, you create sexual energy and this energy has to be used in some way!
     
  2. ultrafabber

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    I think I have a solution. See this topic here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/for-how-long-do-you-indulge-in-a-pmo-session.203267/

    I created it a few days ago when I realized how I had lied to myself for many years. That is, i'd acknowledge binging is bad, but i'd define binges just by how many ejaculations i'd have in a day/week etc. And at the same time i'd count 1 masturbation session as not binge if it happened just once per day or week.

    So i'd tell myself that since i'm just doing it one time it's technically not binging. Even if i masturbated for 3 hours i'd not register it as binge cause i ejaculated only once. How utterly foolish. See in that link how many masturbate for 50 minutes+. So no, you're binging even if you're technically doing it just once.

    Masturbation is not healthy or normal anyway, and this is the core belief that you have to accept. See this topic for more information https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...d-fucking-your-own-hand-become-normal.200078/
     
  3. Inner Conqueror

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    Checking out your articles now. I tend to binge for several hours. There will be breaks between binges where I fall back asleep usually. My binges range anywhere from 1 to 6 hours normally and I've even hit 12 hours (it's not continuous masturbation, usually there are tons of breaks where I fade out of consciousness). The binges make it difficult to function as a human being, you lose the desire to get out of bed... it's easier to just fantasize more about something and pretend the day didn't happen. Rarely do I ever just masturbate once now, it leads to binges almost every time.

    During these binges I even masturbate when I'm not erect. I can usually get myself semi-hard just by deathgripping it or rubbing it non-stop. During the long binges I even have dry-orgasms where I "ejaculate" without anything coming out because everything has already came out during the binge.
     
  4. MillerGD

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    Hi guys, sorry for bumping an old thread but I really need help with this.

    I havent watched porn for more than 2 weeks now. And I'm never ever watching again, my determination is so strong that Im not even counting days.

    But I cant help fantasising. The good thing (I guess) is that my fantasies is not about porn I've seen. Actually I think I already forgot all of the porn I watched. But I keep having fantasies about real woman. Sometimes I fantasize the first time I had sex with my wife (which was great). Sometimes, its another girl I had sex before but I fantasize a little differently, . Sometimes its a girl I was into but nothing happened and I fantasize having sex with her.

    I dont delibereatly dive into these fantesies, but when I go to bed, or when I wake up they just pop into my head and I cant get away from them. I feel a strong urge to fap, but stop myself there, I never fapped since I quit porn.

    Is it ok to have these kind of fantesies, or must i stop?
     
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  5. maximusthegreat

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    Great post. I wonder, is nostalgy (for example nostalgic memories from some party where I had opportunity to fuck some girl, or nostalgic memories - sexual as well- from the begining of my relationship with my current gf when things were perfect ) also kind of fantasy? I can see it disconnects me from reality in some way.
     
  6. MillerGD

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    I'm gonna bump once for help and opinions.
     
  7. PeterGrip

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    Thank you for posting this thread. I really needed it just now
     
  8. Is it okay to have really naughty fantasies of my wife? Stuff we've done, as well as stuff I wanna do!??
     
  9. primaljade

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    Do you have any data to back this up?
     
  10. MillerGD

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    I guess noone knows for sure..?
     
  11. Infrasapiens

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    Do you have a sex drive? How dare you?!


    I say it is okay.
     
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