She blocked me off Facebook

Lately I’ve been trying to get over a heartbreak that started earlier last month. If you guys want to know the full story, check my recent post regarding a rejection from one of my biggest crushes. Long story short, I really liked this young woman on and off for years, but we never really connected on a personal level even though we were friends. So after not seeing her for 6 years (because she lived in Florida) I decided to tell her the truth on my best friend’s wedding day. Obviously, I was shut down and humiliated in front of a bunch of people. However, I still had the courage to come back to the reception and apologize to her. I told her she was beautiful and that I’ll always respect her no matter who she chooses to be with. We hugged each other and that was the end of that.

Now here’s where the real conflict began. 2 weeks later when I was still healing from my heartbreak, I noticed a conversation she was having with the bride’s younger brother. They were going back and forth and joking about some stupid shit. During that moment, he was teasing her about relationships that seemed pretty hurtful, given the fact how difficult her love life already was. So I confronted her on Facebook, and that’s when all hell broke loose. Her response was so abrupt and filled with anger, that I had no idea how to respond. 2 hours later, she said she was blocking me off Facebook hoping I would move on and politely wishing me good luck with everything. I thought to myself, “Wow I really, really fucked up this time.”

After that, I finally realized that I was the asshole the whole time. I thought to myself “What did I do wrong to deserve this?” And as it turned out, I did more than enough damage for her to lose my trust and respect. I was the one that rejected her long ago for personal reasons. I realized that she was holding on to this resentment secretly for years, and then she finally exploded on me 2 weeks after the wedding. Now that it’s been over a month since this incident, I think I finally need to move on now. As for her, I really don’t know who she is anymore.

 

Hey man. I really appreciate your honesty, and even though you were very straight forward, I respect the way you presented your feedback to me without being too harsh. I've liked this young woman on and off for years, and I can't believe I wasted all that time chasing her like idiot whether in person or on social media. To be honest with you, I'm glad she blocked me off Facebook. It was getting to the point where I was literally obsessed with her.

During the last few weeks, I realized that I have a LOT to learn in terms of building up my confidence around women, being a better person, and so on. I swear to you this time, that I'll do my best to change my life around. And as of now, I have a pretty good mindset of where I want to go with my life. I've saved up a ton of money to move out next year to live on my own, and discover the world outside my own home. After all these years, one of reasons why I was unhappy was because of the responsibilities that I had to deal with growing up. That's why I resorted to porn and women to ease my pain. As of now, I deserve a break, and I'm taking full advantage of it.

Furthermore, even though what you said about my friend may be true, let me remind you that I've known her for over 10 years. She has helped me throughout many hardships before she moved and I can't thank her enough. She's still the caring woman that I've always known, and what she did to me last month was for my own sake. Even though she blocked me off Facebook, it was probably the best thing she could have done for me. Yes, I was furious at first, but I realized that she truly wanted me to move on, so she can do the same without any guilt. Again, I thank you for your honesty and I truly believe that this is the last time I will be humiliated by a woman ever again.

 

I understand what you're saying. It's been over a month now, and let me tell you I've never felt better. I've been obsessed with this girl for a long time, and when she shut the door on me, I finally realized I need to change my ways. As of now, my heart is healing at a good pace and I'm slowly starting to move on now. Other than that, thanks for you support man.

 

Wow I never knew about that. It's good to know that other people have experienced the same thing as this is my first time being blocked by a person I knew pretty well. At least she knows the truth that I liked her because I was holding in my feelings for so long. Obviously, it came out the wrong way. But other than that, I'm gonna do my best to change myself from now on.

 

This response is by far the most interesting post that I've seen in a while. I was never a huge fan of The Twilight Zone, however, I've seen a few episodes of the new and old version (honestly, the old one is creepier IMO). Anyway, the similarities between my situation and that of the The Twilight Zone episode is kind of eerie, but thought provoking at the same time. I know she didn't hurt me with bad intentions; I'm guessing she did it for her own personal reasons like you said.

It took me a while to realize the damage that I've caused for the both of us. Obviously, there's no way to turn things around, but at least I can look back at my mistakes and try to not mess up like that again. I've learned my lesson to never take anyone for granted, especially those whom you've fallen in love with.

Other than that, it's been over a month and I'm just about ready to move on. If she does unblock me from Facebook, I'll apologize like I was supposed to. If not, I can accept that too. As of now, I have way more important things to focus on besides women and relationships. I have an idea of where I want to go and what I want to do. I'm not even gonna think about that kind of stuff anymore.

 

Yeah I get it bro. When was the last you had your heart broken? At least I had the guts to get out there and did what I did.