Hi everyone, this is my first post. I'm currently 9 days into a reboot. I'm trying to abstain from porn and masturbation, but still have sex with a partner. I'm 38 and have been a porn addict since my teens. I'm not a virgin but for the majority of that time I've been single, with PMO being my only sexual outlet. About a month ago I met a woman and we started dating. I stopped PMO shortly after I met her because I thought it would be easy to switch to real sex when the time was right. Last week we decided we were ready for sex. I had no problem getting an erection during foreplay, but once we started having intercourse, I lost my erection and couldn't get it back. I felt very ashamed. This has happened to me with other girls in the past, but not every time and not predictably. I am sure that it was porn induced, because I've tried quitting porn before and just masturbating to my imagination, and I had a very difficult time keeping an erection or reaching orgasm. I didn't feel confident telling her about my porn addiction in that moment, so I just blamed it on fatigue and we went to sleep. We've been out together again since that incident and she seemed totally unbothered about it, still very affectionate and happy to see me. We agreed on another date for tomorrow night, when we will likely have a chance for sex again. My concern is that if I tell her about my addiction she might be repulsed and not want to see me anymore. On the other hand if I have another incident of ED, she may think I'm not attracted to her or that I'm just bad in bed and may not want to see me anymore. I really like this girl and I want to build a long-term relationship with her if possible. She has shared with me that she's been in some abusive and neglectful relationships in the past, so I'm trying to be as drama-free as possible. How would you handle the situation? Should I expect the problem to keep recurring for a while? Should I talk to a doctor?