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Should I tell my parents about my pmo addiction?

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Air0, Jun 16, 2018.

  1. Air0

    Air0 Fapstronaut

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    This is something ive hidden from the, way too many years. Last night I had so many negative and depressing thoughts I never want to feel that way again. Im a christian and my religion is telling me that if i dont tell my parents that im not truely giving myself to God. Although what if the thoughts never go away and telling then would only make it worse. I feel so ashamed this is tearing me apart. help me what should i do?
     
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  2. PMO addict

    PMO addict Fapstronaut

    I grew up in an un-safe home and so I didn't tell my parents things. Now I tell safe people like from my support group. If I told my parents (when I was a kid) I would be punished, and I never deserved to be punished. I was just mis-understood. When I talk to understanding people, they are kind and accepting. They give me the time to admit that my behavior may be destructive and I might want to do something different. They don't push me or condemn or judge me. If I had more accepting parents I would be more open. But I knew they weren't really safe to talk to. I don't think its fair that the religions pressure people to talk to someone unsafe. A lot of religious stuff is mis-used these days. For example, there is one line in a particular religious text that encourages the beating of children. Of course, that's horrible, and should never be done. And yet these religions make people think that some "man in the sky" wants them to beat their children. There's another religion that encourages people to mutilate their baby boy's genitals. It says the "man in the sky" wants them to. Obviously, that is very harmful and wrong, but it shows how religion makes good people actually do evil, thinking its "good"! Another thing is the honor thy parents thing. But that's un-fair when the parents are abusive or un-safe, or neglecful. It creates an un-healthy child who is focused on the parents needs (and guessing them) instead of a parent who is focused on the childs needs (which is how it should be). So, just because a religion says something, doesn't mean its true. And of course the churchs that try to "enforce" these things become emotionally and energetically toxic places. Religious abuse is very rampant which is why I left religions. I've been working on the de-programming ever since which is where I got a lot of my info.
     
  3. Air0

    Air0 Fapstronaut

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    hey man i'm sorry that your past was so rough. I'm glad to hear that you are in a rebooting group and that you have people who are helping you. I decided to tell my parents. I don't really feel a burden lifted from me. But I'm closer to God after doing this. I don't have to have regret after reading a bible or going to church. I think that I needed to tell someone in able to truly trust God.

    I hope thing go better for you. Stay strong!
     

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