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Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by SonGokuSSJ, Jan 2, 2019.

  1. SonGokuSSJ

    SonGokuSSJ New Fapstronaut

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    Hello community!
    I‘m a 17y/o teenager who started NoFap on the 16th November 2018!
    In the first 10 days everything was good! I didn‘t have any precum! But in days 15 to 20 , when I was outside in the city and saw hot girls, I got precum (without getting a really hard dick, hope you understand what I‘m trying to say) Then in December from the 18th to the 28th , I was traveling and very tired. So I didn‘t get precum in these days and didn‘t look at sexy women.
    Now in the days 31st December until today, I always think of these women and have porn flashbacks and get precum. (Again, my dick doesn‘t get hard)
    So my question.Did I relapse?Because I neither touched my dick, watched porn or orgasmed. Btw I had 3 wet dreams.
    Did I get benefits? (Have read about dopamine but I don‘t know if it happened to me)
    Always when I see these women I want to have sex. But I‘m virgin and not in a relationship.

    I hope you can help me
     
  2. Limitbreaker

    Limitbreaker Fapstronaut

    Totally ok whats happening, you are young, dont be to hard on yourself. Try not to fight those pics and flashbacks, what really helps is to consciously be aware of your thoughts and those pics and let them gently pass. The harder you try to resist, the harder it cums back ( i like playing with words^^). Seriously, relax. You are maybe objectifying women. What you can do is that you look every woman deep into their eyes and go search for their actualy soul, not boobies and butt. I mean, i love the complete package of a woman, her heart, her breasts everything! I see her with complete eyes and not only her hot hips.

    Look at older women like age 60 to 70. Some of them radiate a feminine essence that is so attractive that i can watch them walk for hours.
    Now talk to women, just a little smalltalk, but not only the hot ones. Say to a 60 year old, maybe fat cashier that she got a really nice smile and she looks happy. Or if you see somebody who looks tired, tell them they look tired and they could take a minute to rest.

    Women are only humans too, they shit too like men, they get drunk, they do mistakes, after a time of actual seeing the woman and not only her hotness you will see that a lot of them are not that hot. Dont put em on a pedestal
     
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  3. i agree, especially about looking into their souls, when we stop looking at woman as objects and just admire their strength and the qualities they give off, we will be able to see them in a whole new way, a way we can respect and admire them.
     
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  4. Sounds like you are doing ok! Well done.
    If you feel that things are going well, post something in the Success Stories section..
     
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  5. SonGokuSSJ

    SonGokuSSJ New Fapstronaut

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    Hello!
    I really thank you for your answer! It helped me. Next week school does start and I‘ll try to follow your tips! You‘re right. Objectification of women is the worst thing to do. I will change!
     
  6. SonGokuSSJ

    SonGokuSSJ New Fapstronaut

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    Hello. Thank you for your tip! I will!
     

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