Hi,
I'm new to this site, but I do have a porn addiction. If anyone here considers themself a praying person, I'm trying to date again soon. Thanks.
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Hey all,
I am only 8 days into my current reboot. I have done a full 90+ days before but since I didn't have any outlet, I just reverted back to porn and sank deeper.
Now, there are multiple women at my work that flirt with me. Also, several gay guys. I really like the one girl and she...
Hi everyone, so ive been pretty much single my whole life. Ive had some small non serious relationships in the past and it makes me wonder why Ive never connected to anyone deeply enough to sustain a relationship with them. I want to say it was because of my porn addiction and excessive PMO and...
I forgot how to make my own journal through this website. So I'll just post this publicly for now. I decided to cancel my account to this site a few months ago because my views no longer aligned with the NoFap philosophy and to be honest, it still quite doesn't. I believe that PMO is ok if you...
I want to start this diary to share with you my journey of getting to know this girl over the years and eventually falling in love with her, even though I did not want to.
The year was 2013, we met in high school when she was just 17. She was the best friend and a classmate of my high school...
Hello, I am dating for 2 weeks now and had sex 1 week back. I noticed that since I had sex nofap has become very hard. Before that I had a streak of 12 months and also didn’t have sex. I feel so horny this last week that I lost almost every day. Are there here people who also notice nofap...
Hey guys,
I am in my 20´s, from Germany, so I have to excuse for my English in advance and just hope to get better from reading your posts and from writing myself.
I write you, because of today, it's been a little more than a week, that my girlfriend (or now ex) found out about my addiction and...
Its not the most important priority but dam I ain't gone lie its pretty high on my list A brotha just wanna slap his nuts inside some cheeks, geez is that hard fucking concept grasps? When has society become so soft? We live in a world when a man is scrutinized shammed for wanting some booty...
It's said that the flatline is your brain in recovery and that the best action to take is to wait it out.
My question is... when it comes to dating. Should you wait until the flatline is over before dating? Or does dating help speed up the recovery process?
I'm asking because I could be in for...
Hi everyone,
I am a 17 year old male who has been struggling with P for the past 3-5 years. I also have a M problem that sparked due to P and being a teen. I have tried to stop P several times but haven’t made it far (longest streak abt a week). I have a job and attend a trade school. I also...
Hello guys,
merry christmas to all of you!
So right now I am not even on day 1 of Nofap/no P.
Sometimes I think that it would be nice to have a girlfriend (its often because of sexual urges that I think that) but when I ejaculate then I don’t even feel the need or wish that much to have one...
The rules are taken from her book The Case Against the Sexual Revolution.
What do think of them? Would you apply any of the rules to your life?
• Distrust any person or ideology that puts pressure on you to ignore your moral intuition.
• Chivalry is actually a good thing. We all have to...
Hello brothers,
I am kind of in a dilemma right now.
Somehow I feel that there is something missing in my life, I miss that excitement, that feeling of being alive.
But I don’t know where to find my passion, that thing to put my energy into.
I am thinking of dating some women just for the...
Hello fellow brothers,
so yesterday I went to the club and I also started doing online dating again, even if I am 0 days wothout PMO.
I have noticed that somehow everytime when I chase girls (via Dating Apps or in the club for example) that I fall into some submissive mode and start doing...
Hello fellow brothers of the good fight,
lately I am wondering how I will find potential women to meet and maybe someday have a serious relationship with.
At work in my office there are some girls in my age, but all of them are taken.
In my karate class there are no girls my age.
And thats...
Feels like I’m coming to grips that I’m like a 5-6 to others in the dating realm. But it’s seems like I’m always attracted to the very beautiful young ladies but can’t stomach the fact that I may have to settle. How do I get around this?
Thanks
I didn't know where to put this thread in loneliness or dating during reboot so mods can fix this. Anyways. My last post was kind of similar but this is my last time posting about this subject for a while. Come a long way on my journey and still have a long road ahead of me. Now that I've...
I'm in a situation where I have done alot of inner work for a few years, you could call me fairly charismatic, confident and comfortable at least in a somewhat platonic (I'm still a virgin) social environment but this does not match the reality of my situation and what is expected of me at my...
Hi all, I can’t get over the fact I’m the low man on the pecking order in terms of dating. I make moderately good pay but I hear 80% of women want the top 10% of guys. I haven’t had a gf in 10 years while all my friends seem to find women left and right. Idk wtf is wrong with me?
As you can tell from the title. I just got recently rejected and it feels so good. Just to finally let it all out. Shit that was built in your system for years. My fear of rejection, having my ego bruised and crushed has kept me from taking the next step with woman, even if it was for a hook...
Alright guys, i need your advice or tips etc whatever you wanna call it.
So in upcoming months, i think i am going to have my first ever sexual experience. Given the noob that i am in this practical field, what starter advice would you guys have? What worked for you and what not?
Additionally...
I wanna here yalls thoughts on men traveling an or going overseas in general? If seen several men and woman chastise an ridicule other men for going overseas.
Me, personally I fucks with the movement 100% If you go only because of woman than I kinda agree it makes you a simp. Its the food...
hey guys , i am 22 and very much confused that should i start my dating journey or not as i am preparing for jobs.
Guys can you tell me pls whats dating in your 30's and 40's is like and how much different is it from the 20's, so i can get to know about the future and take necessary actions .
I...
I met a girl at a local dentist office. She works there as an assistant to the doctor and she was very cool and nice to me. She's cute and so I decided to leave my number with the woman in the front to give to her (I'm awkward so it wasn't smooth :D, but so what--she called me!). This woman has...
Lately, I've been thinking that it is better to date a woman that has no children because it's less baggage. Right before I relapsed on new year's day 2023, I decided to go out and about to talk to girls. One girl I met at a Walmart I used to go to school with. We started chatting for a little...
My opinion could definitely change on this but considering how seldomly many of us men get sex, is it so bad to orgasm/have sex with the person we are dating for example so as long as it doesn't lead to PMO?
I came across a girl on a matrimony site.
I like this girl. The family background is quite similar. Others don't consider her that beautiful. But I like her. I am trying to meet her in the city but she has postponed the meeting. Shall I open up to her about my obsessions for her? I have been on...
So there is this girl who I am starting to slowly develop feelings for. But like I hate that I think about her most of the time and forget about myself. It really kills a lot of my time and motivation when I do this &
I really wanna focus on myself right now, but we often always meet and talk...
Ana was a stunning piece of beauty.
Long legs, curvy body, beautiful tanned skin — a Mexican goddess straight out of a telenovela. Next to her came my date Silvina. At around 5 feet and 5 inches, slightly chubby but still pretty, she embodied a more realistic South American stereotype.
We all...
I’m 5 days in no PMO, (my max streak was 104 days) and I think the only way for me to maintain a new streak after discovering dating apps a month or so ago is to give semen retention a shot.
However, I think having an indefinite period of time that I must devote to my craft (1-2 years) and the...
I'm 29 and live in a major American city. I've done cold approach on and off for around 2 years , but never did enough volume to get good at it. I think I have around 100 total approaches, most of them with pretty bad body language and vocal tonality.
From tomorrow, Dec 21 2022 - I aim to do 15...
Guys I really need help with a problem that has spanned almost the same time as NoFap (& This could be a reason why I haven't had a Girlfriend yet)
I don't even know what to call this problem, it could be insecurity
Does SM/Text Harm our personality?
Like I sometimes I make a fun out of myself...
So there's this girl that I really like, she's from my college. I've never been on a date before nor ever had a girlfriend. One of the problems I have right now is not knowing what to do when you like someone. Do I straight up tell them I like them, ask them out or just wait for them etc..
So...
Hi ! It's been 14 days today.. and life is soo much better with PMO gone.. I'm kinda 17. And PMO was around from when I was around 11. So, since the PMO gone, and my social interactions getting better.. This girl proposed me. I immediately said yes, but the next day I was full of anxiety up to...
Hey guys this has worked for me the last several weeks when I see someone who I'm attracted to at the gym... First, since most girl have airpods, earphones etc on., I extend my arm with my hand open and look at their face to make eye contact with me instead of saying something and having them...
I'm new to this site, so I'm hoping that this is the right forum to talk about my lack of motivation to do nofap recently. The last time I PMO'd was January 2021 which was almost two years ago (I stopped counting the days a while ago). I've heard of many nofap benefits mentioned by people on...
So here’s some context about me. Right now I’m 23 years old, over 100 days NoFap with no plans of stopping anytime soon, and currently living in my parents house (which I don’t really have a problem with). I have lived in Hawaii and New York by myself (in my own apartment) for 2 years, not sure...
Like the title says I have pied. I’m on day 7 with minor peeking and no masturbation . I’m just very lonely and tired of being alone and sad . Is it still possible for me to try and date with pied? Sometimes I just sit at home and wonder if it’s going to be like this forever . I will be 31 in a...
Hello guys,
I never had a GF, or sex beyond foreplay. The few times I was able to date or kiss during parties/in nightclub they were the ones doing the first step, and because my friends were telling me they were clearly showing interest. On the one hand it reassures me that there are at least...
I have been on the nofap journey from about Nov 2019 managing streaks from a few days up to 40-45 days, but never managed to get past this point. During this time I haven’t dated anyone until more recently where I have started up with my neighbour. Every time we have sex I have felt dreadful...
when i started getting involved with him i was 23, he was 21. now i am 30 he is 28. we have been on and off several times. we mostly had. s. especially at my house sometimes dates out. i fell for him intensely. sometimes i said to him he was the only one for me. i don't think that from a long...
There is a coworker I like who has become comfortable with me over the half of a year I have seen her. When she trained me for the first time, I saw that she would turn to stare at me, before quickly turning back to the tutorial on the computer. She started approaching me after I complimented...
Hello,
I'm currently on day 20 of nofap.
Since about 1 or 2 weeks I have a numbness feeling in my dick. My balls feel normal. I also get erections during sleep and they also feel numb.
I'm currently dating a girl and we just had our 4th date. We went to the theater and while watching the act...
Hello,
I'm currently on day 20 of nofap.
Since about 1 or 2 weeks I have a numbness feeling in my dick. My balls feel normal. I also get erections during sleep and they also feel numb.
I'm currently dating a girl and we just had our 4th date. We went to the theater and while watching the act...
Picking the right girl
Develop an eye to see with who you have chemistry with, that she is a good girl and not crazy, notice if the interaction is smooth and natural. If not then do not pursue it. Choosing the right girl is almost 90% of your success.
The approach
Whereas you do real life...
I have learned in these two years of dating:
- Look beyond lust, love, beauty and emotions so you can see a woman for what she does and who she is because if you don’t you will experience a bit of hell living on earth.
- Let go, no matter how much you have invested in a girl, if you love her...
Recently, I experienced my first episode of what I was told was dissociation. It came after seeing a guy I had gone on one date with and ended up giving me all sorts of mixed signals for over a month, to which I had finally pulled the plug and blocked him. Seeing him had brought up a lot of pain...
Buckle up it's a long one. Discovered porn at 11, viewed in some capacity it at least once or twice every week with rare gaps of a week, two weeks even sometimes 3 or so of no porn of any kind here and there. I'm 26 now and while there have been many girls and women over the years that I have...
So as you are reading guys, I'm 22 and have been PMOing for 8 years. 3-5 times a day non stop. I'm currently doing my longest streak right now which is
(( day 50 of NoFap hard mood and Semen Retention ))
But i'm wondering, is 90 days really good number to consider myself cured ? because I...
I'm not recovered from PMO. Not by a long shot, but I really want to start asking girls out. I know my title sounds silly. As I talk to girls all the time! Work, church etc, but nothing on a level of "Hey, I like you, can we go out?" that terrifies me. How do I overcome my fear?
All my dates usually ended up in sex or with a lot kissing and touching. Even first dates.
I had an argument with my girlfriend two months ago and we didn't talk since then.
Until last sunday we started talking again.
Yesterday I saw her, I knew she was tired from work and busy but made...
I’ve seen many old men that have the emotional intelligence of a 15 years old. We men are very smart, creative but in terms of sexuality, dating and emotional intelligence we are pretty much ignorant, most men only care for how the girl looks and that is it.
Girls and sexuality are complex...
I'm 27, and I've only had a handful of relationships throughout my life. Nothing very serious, but in the past 5 years or so I haven't dated anyone. Sure I've been on a few first dates, but they haven't gone anywhere.
I have a tendency to get on dating apps every so often In hopes that I find...
There is a woman in my life now who is very young and beautiful. We've known each other 5 years and only just now got together and it's on fire. She got in the car Friday night - we had seen each other since October 2019 -- pulled my face into hers with both hands, said "I fuckin' missed you!"...
Yesterday I got a notification of a camera speed ticket I already paid, probably I'll have to go to court for it. Because I already paid it and don't want to pay it again.
This was last year, I got the ticket because I was going to see this webcam girl, when we first met I didn't know she was a...
When I was younger I used to blame my problems on every other person and say "It's their fault that I'm in this situation." But now I've come to realize that that everyone including myself plays a hand in problems What matters is how you respond to them but as I grew older I turned to Stoicism I...
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hello,
some background before i ask the question :
since the beginning of the year, i have been actively trying to get into relationships,
however in april/may i suffered very badly from love. a girl had me in her pocket, but make no mistake, i was her puppet. i could be happy to recieve a...
Ever since I'm starting to genuinely talk to a girl more in a friendly manner I'm starting to get some serious attractive girls and even some girls that are quite hard to know because their personality.
I also enjoy it more, the conversation becomes more wide and enjoyable. Because flirting...
I’m going to stop calling girls by beautiful names like baby, honey…
Girls always have the impression you just want to have sex with them so, calling her names even do is sweet it can sexualize the dialogue. I always use this type of love adjectives since day one I meet a girl, but I’m going to...
Current streak: 484 days no PMO, semen retention
Be sex independent that is it.
If you can live without sex, masturbation, porn. Even without sex while having sex with a girlfriend, meaning that if all of the sudden she breaks up with you or she simply doesn’t want to have sex any long you...
Current streak: 474 days no PMO, semen retention
I was a monk, I lived in a monastery, and also I was a voluntary celibate for many years, I had this notion since 10 y.o to be a free man and my happiness needed to be independent from any external source, including girls.
At some point in...
It's like saying simply by doing semen retention you are going to be a great engineer or a violin player without ever going to university or playing the violin.
Sure good looks, money, status can win you some attention from the girls but making a girl fall in love of you, being able to handle...
So, I just relapsed, and I think it is caused to the fact that yesterday, I had a date, but the girl with who I had a date decided to invite 2 people, we were 4... I was very shy and almost didn't talked to her, and almost only talked with her friend and the friend of her friend... Any advice?
Hi,
I am going strong in my NoFap journey (hard mode, I was addicted for several years) and lately experienced a high level of happiness with myself and my life in general. I lift weights and do mixed martial arts, which also helps me abstaining from bad habits.
I started dating again and met...
ive never had a girlfriend before and im 25. im more interested in a relationship instead of casual sex despite covid still happening but the good thing is that restrictions are being lifted in my country
i dont have a job at the moment, i still live at home with my mom because the pandemic has...
I know, shocking to hear. I mean also I'm young so It's not that shocking. I'm in Middle school hearing people saying they got girlfriends, and The women I talk to are shocked to hear I never kissed a girl or had a girlfriend. Ok so I bet I'm not the only one who has heard of elementary school...
Ever since I was 9 years old I was attracted to fat women [This was not porn induced] I was at a party with my family and I saw a fat woman who I thought was very attractive yet I spent years trying to keep this "desire" hidden especially from my mother who claims to be progressive and forward...
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Current streak: 462 days semen retention
I've been somehow successful with girls, I've been asked this question quite often lately here in nofap so I'm my experience I'm going to write how to deal with girls
Being the best version of yourself
this will make you attractive to girls, without...
Saw on another thread someone who wanted advice about not seeming needy, and thought I'd go through some tips and tricks I've used while communicating with women virtually.
I understand the NEEEED for affection and connection during a reboot. This can make us act in ways that normally...
Current streak: 458 days no PMO, semen retention
Some days ago I made the conscious choice of not caring any longer if I get a girl or not. I simply stop caring about it.
But not in a negative way or out of frustration, I simply felt I could live happy with or without a girl.
This gave me a...
Current streak: 449 days semen retention
Treating women differently
I'm starting to treat women as friends, they open up more and are willing to show you their soft side. It's a great way to get to know each other. But it hasn't turn out the way I expected. It seems the girls feel even more...
Current streak: 445 days no PMO, semen retention
I just broke up with my girlfriend like 2 days ago she's a 10/10 physically but in the long run I knew we weren't meant to be together. It was hard I knew or believed I couldn't find a better girl. Also the emotional aspect had me a little down...
I'm 19 years old, single, virgin, never had a girlfriend, I will admit that I am pretty confident in my hobbies, work, spiritual life and religious life, I am also pretty confident talking to men as well, but if I'm being honest I can't stop being shy around women (particularly bigger women.)...
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The more I do NoFap and Semen retention, I realize my taste in women diversifies. Ideally the one woman I want in my life would have these traits; Christian (Ideally Catholic), feminine, desire to start a family, sense of humor is a must, not too hung up on politics, has her own hobbies, reads...
I always avoided crazy chicks even do some are very beautiful. The only strange thing that happened to me was this girl I broke up and then one month or so later sent me an ultrasound video showing her being pregnant, I saw the video carefully and the weeks didn't add up, also I had her...
A little while back I wanted help with my attraction to fat women but now I can't take it anymore and I just want to spend my time with one. BBW, SSBBW honestly couldn't care less all I know is that I want a big plump woman. I want to become Roman-Catholic but I also want a fat woman so I'm...
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Counter: 378 days no PMO, semen retention
It's been some weeks since I started to make cold approaches, it's my first time doing it. I used to be more into dating apps.
So far it's being a success and I've become better and better as I do it more. But after the first approach to a girl I...
Hey guys, I've been doing NoFap for about 5 years, and have made incremental improvements that added up to a lot in that time. However, I find myself really struggling to make it past 1 month in a streak.
The last 12 months, my average streak would probably be 3-4 weeks. So an absolute majority...
Hey guys,
So i have been doing nofap for 12 days + now. And i met a girl i really vibe with, i went to her house and we start kissing and eventually it led to sex. Unfortunately, I don’t know why but i cum so fast (during the cunninlingus) so at the end we didn't end up having sex (no...
I like girls that workout, with curves, beautiful face. More young than me.
That loves sex, very femenine, docile, let's the man take the lead. She has conceived no children.
With very few past sex partners maximum 3. Humble girl, with no psychological problems, she is happy and smart, if she is...
Single mothers:
I personally can't date a single mother as soon as I hear she had a baby with another man I immediately loose attraction. I can't stand the idea of taking care of someone else's offspring or that she had a baby with someone else. Not even casually I'm able to date this type of...
In first comment let’s introduce about myself! Here is my story from the beginning.
Started to M (masturbate) at age of 13. As boy I wasn’t addicted to P (porn). I used to fantasize about naked girls, sex. Very often had erection and did MO (masturbation + orgasm) multiple times per day. Quality...
Hey guys,
since we are slowly approaching summer and hopefully less covid restrictions, I'm really looking forward to dating.
The classics like meeting in a coffee shop, a restauraunt or a bar are kinda boring and uncomfortable imo and it's not even sure if it will be allowed anytime soon...
I personally believe it's not possible, there's always some type of sexual tension and one of the two wants to have sex with the other.
What do you think?
For me it is, dating means I'm expressing my sexuality in some way or the other to the other person. It can be my trough my words joking, touching the girl or just listening to her.
But they all involve a control or an expression of my sex impulse. If I'm not in control of it I become tense...
When I was starting to date and I usually developed a crush even before talking to the girl and after the time passed and specially after we had sex many times I lost interest.
Why?
Well, sex reveals. After you have sex you take lust out of your eyes and you can see clearly what the other...
Hey, what's up. I feel weird posting here but I am willing to take advice from anywhere.
It's been some years since my first and last girlfriend (I'm 23) and altogether my relationship with women has been quite troublesome, but lately I have found to feel akin and attracted by a friend I have...
Hey everyone,
So this is my very first post, even though it's been some time since I've read some of the posts here and have really helped me through this journey of Reboot.
First I want to talk about my personal experience with PMO. I read 'Your Brain on Porn' about two years ago and I was...
"... is to become an amazing person." - Mark Manson [https://markmanson.net/how-to-find-the-one]
Thoughts anyone?
I like it. It's counter-intuitive yet it feels true to me. Manson says earlier in the article that "[...] everyone wants a perfect partner, but few people want to be the perfect...
First of all, it's my personal opinion that society perpetuates the false idea that we need a romantic partner in order to be whole. The real question is, what's so dangerous about an independent, attractive (yes you reading this and me are attractive!), successful, confident, and intelligent...
Question: How soon / late did you start dating other people after your success with a reboot + consecutive days / streaks?
I have an idea that only once I am past 90 days, and also once I no longer can clearly identify that I have any old problems with a PMO addiction, then I will consider...
I'm not new to PMO, and I've been trying to recover for the past 6 to 8 months or so. Maybe up to a year, but one of the goals I set for myself was to find a partner. However, I didn't realize how much anxiety this would give me. It's always been a goal of mine to be with someone, but through...
Hey guys, hope you're all doing great.
Recently a very close friend of mine who I had a crush on for a while told me she started dating a mutual friend of ours and it was kind of crushing even though for the longest time I had decided I wouldn't attempt anything with her because it's a...
Except for quarantine, how did you find girls to have a relationship with?
Did you use Tinder, did you cold approached girls on the street?
I just can't find them anywhere and don't even know how to start.
It was much easier in summer.
Hello friends!
Hope everyone is doing great!
One side-effect of being a porn addict is it lowers our self-esteem. This makes dating and getting to know girls (or partners) more challenging.. in my case I think this was a big factor in getting many rejections haha.
During my reboot process...