Suffering with ED or PIED

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Ready to be healthy, Oct 9, 2017.

  1. Hi Guys,

    I did post this in another forum but realised it's maybe better in this one as ED is one of my main issues with Porn and Masturbation.

    I hope I am posting this in the right place, I wanted to reach out to the NoFap community as I really want to rid porn from my life. I thought I should introduce myself :)

    I'm a 34 year old gay guy and I was in a long term relationship for the last 5 and half years.. Through out the entire relationship I also masturbated to porn on a very regular basis- I was also plagued with Erectile Dysfunction for the entire relationship. I combated this with the use of medication and even Psycho-sexual counselling- It got to the point that I was almost willing a "physical reason" upon myself just so I could understand why this was happening- Physically I am fine however.

    I became aware of NoFapp a few years ago and toyed with the idea on and off- last year I tried to stop and lasted for about 6 weeks and I did notice and improvement in sexual function! However I relapsed and just continued to try and fluke my way through the problem- so I could continue to indulge in porn.

    Anyway, about 6 weeks ago me and my boyfriend broke up- the sexual problems were apart of that- it was amicable and it seems this may just be a "temporary space" if it is great and if not- I will meet someone else one day and I want to be free of porn addiction and I hope this will help my problems with Erectile Dysfunction.

    I stopped Masturbating 2 weeks ago as of tomorrow (Monday 9th October) I'm really struggling just now- today and yesterday I allowed myself to look at sexy images while I was on Twitter- not all pornographic but certainly sexual- I didn't masturbate or orgasm but I feel bad for even looking...

    Do you guys consider just seeing a sexy image as a kind of relapse? Is it better to Masturbate alone without porn to relieve the stress and remove the risk of relapsing with porn- or should I just keep going?

    I really appreciate any advice :)
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  2. Sideshow606

    Sideshow606 Fapstronaut

    Im my expirience sexual image are porn substitute
    Your filling your mind with dopamine
    Thats why i can look at images for hours at a time ...
    Same with masturbation
    Im trying to go 30 days clean and then start having sex again ...
    Good luck bro
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  3. Good luck to you too!
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  4. Pootle

    Pootle Fapstronaut

    Wanting to be P free is extremely commendable, as is wanting to enter a new relationship with P addiction firmly behind you. Well done for keeping abstinent over a 2 week period be careful of the little voice that tells you that it's OK to Psub (porn substitute) and be even more mindful of giving yourself a way to justify that little voice - it's the addictive, compulsive element dragging you backwards. I've found so many ways to justify and make it OK fall backwards . . . and I'm still finding them.

    Do you think it could be worth your while to set your own boundaries? Can you decide if looking at a sexy image is relapse? Can you give yourself boundaries regarding your M behaviours? I think what I am really prompting here is can you give yourself back to you and take ownership of yourself? - I'm asking myself that question just as much as I'm asking you. My thinking here is can I have a full, honest relationship with myself?

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