This is so worth it

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by ShotDunyun, Jul 1, 2018.

  1. ShotDunyun

    ShotDunyun Fapstronaut

    90 days again. I got so cocky for a year, thinking I had PMO figured it out. You cannot tame this habit, you just can't. Even though I wasn't nearly as deep into the habit as in 2016, I lost all my confidence again. The moment I felt awkward with a pharmacy clerk 90-something days ago I knew I was in trouble.

    I was afraid that I went the NoFap route, It was going to make work and life in general more difficult. That's exactly what happened, and now I am very proud of myself that I took the hard way and succeded.

    I don't feel great yet, but I can see a lot of improvement. Now I want to beat my 200 days last streak, and try to make it a year, I'm very motivated.

    I want you to read this and I want you to believe in yourself. I, as well as you, never thought I could make it to 90 days straight without masturbation, porn or orgasms. Just like you, I failed 20 times in a row, but every one of those fails were a small victory as well. Maybe you won´t make it on your first try, but keep trying. It will become easier, just do your best and give everything you've got to stop this habit.

    It is not easy. It is a nightmare. It is like slowly walking into the depths of hell, and everyday that passes makes everything worse. You'll feel depressed, disrespected, suicidal, lazy, useless, unattractive, hopeless and a large etcetera. And that may continue for over 90 days.

    But Oh Boy. Oh, Oh, Oh boy. One day you'll wake up and realize you dont feel like utter shit, then you'll have to live one month feeling like shit again. But you'll remember that day you didn't fell like that and you'll want to experience it again. And its going to happen more often. And you'll realize why so few people can and are willing to do it. BECAUSE IT IS NOT EASY. Keep this in your mind at all times. What you are doing is a fucking torture, and you are doing this to yourself. It this was easy, EVERYONE would be doing this. Your brain is going to try to convince you that this is not worth it.

    But it is, the reward is something that you've always had, but you are just hiding it within you watching porn so often.

    I know this is a long post, but fuck it, I will make a list of improvements first. So, if you don't mind:


    Confidence : Damn, I dont feel like the Alpha dog yet, but I can see people straight to the eyes, I dont find girls scary, authority figures are equals, I walk straight, and more important I DONT GIVE A FUCK ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE THINK ABOUT ME. Like that, I know I will never be perfect and I'm a flawed human being, but we are all flawed, so fuck whatever people think about me.

    Energy: This is real, dawg. Sometimes I get 4 hours or less of sleep and I fell energized the next day. I work out so hard that I need a couple of hours to recover. I feel the need to work out, and I'm always challenging myself on what new bodyweight moves I can pull out. I've been doing an Unreal Engine course, and I feel very motivated do it. Just look at the length of my post, and I'm not even finished.

    Brain fog: Improved a lot. I can read for a long time without interruptions and I can understand and remember what I just read. My ideas flow faster and clearly.

    Physical changes : My body odor changes. For some reason when I'm on PMO I stink, but know there are people telling me that I smell good. Im gaining weight , some good muscle and some fat as well, but overall I cant really complain, I can stop being a twig. I dont sweat like a pig, my skin seems to be improving. The beard is longer and with a good color.

    Female attraction: This is the most polemic one. People here claim that is real, people claim is fake and some people say this is a placebo effect. I cannot prove it, but I'm convinced that is real. The first two months I became invisible to women. No woman even looked at me during this time. There were just days apart from each other when I felt this crazy attraction, like I was just irresistible. Its happening again almost daily now. For some reason they find you very interesting, women of all ages looking at you, like knowing that you haven't masturbated or looked at porn for a long time. It's like they FEEL you, they know you are there, they can feel your presence from far away (from the other side of the subway convoy, when its full of people and it seems you stand out, from example). To be fair, people have always told me that I'm a handsome man, and to be fair the beard helps a lot, but for some reason when I fap often or when I'm going through the first months I disappear from their radar. Girls start texting me out of the blue. This girl always wants to see me and go to their house, this other one invited me to see System of a Down, she even bought the tickets. My boss(a girl) is always looking and flirting with me, she is always saying that I'm handsome in front of everyone. Her boss is always looking at me as well. This is real, brothers, I just cannot explain what it is or how it works, but it works.

    Now the bad news:

    No morning erections: Or at least not that often. When I have them are rock hard, but that has happened like 20 days out of 90. I dont really plan to be with a woman for a while, but this is making me worried.

    No sexual desire: I fantasize regularly, but I don't aroused and I don't get erections from it. This is weird. And I don't like it


    I swear Im almost finished. I advise all of you to keep P subs at the minimum possible. On my first 90 day streak I had several wet dreams. This time I've only had one, and It was not a full ejaculation, it was seminal liquid mostly. I'm sure that P subs are at fault when you have wet dreams. Also not looking at women. Now I realize that I've been retaining my seed for 90 days.

    I think this is it, I dont want to bore you with this Bible I just typed. Keep fighting. If I could do it, you bet your ass you can do it as well.
     
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  2. iPhone user

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    Awesome post! Congrads on your 90th day as that is my minimum goal.
     
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  3. Powerous

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    Congratulations on your success bro, really happy for you, it makes me happy reading these life changing success stories!

    The female attraction I have definitely experienced along my journey especially in the past!
    It is the pheromones bro!, when you retain your seminal/jing/life force energy it becomes circulated back into your system. You produce strong and positive vibes as well as pheromones.

    Females subconsciously are attracted to males with strong seed because its how humans are wired. We want the best partner to reproduce with and a strong seminal energy means you are more of a man and therefore can have better kids blalala...

    Its all in the energy and vibes.
    When you masturbate and orgasm constantly you are just wasting your precious seminal energy.
    Most successful people in the world know about this energy, Boxers for example dont have sex for weeks/months before a fight. Mike Tyson in his prime never had sex or masturbated for 5 years!

    Napoleon Hill's - Think and Grow Rich delves deeper into this subject.
    It's truly amazing, because sexual energy is one of the most if not the most powerful energy within a man.
     
  4. TheFlash123

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    That's great success story!!

    It's all about patience, most of the times I think that NoFAP is doing nothing, But there are some moments that's happen only due to abstinence to P. I was also feeling lot of attraction from female when I was having streaks of 30 days, and I want to get that attraction once again.
     
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  5. Woodcutter74

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    First of all, fucking amazing article you wrote here! Love it! I also believe the female attraction works, and though I cannot explain entirely why , I do have a hypothesis. First of all, I think when you quit PMO, you prove that you have discipline, inner strength, desires and passions as well without being a slave to it. I believe that women can sense that and it turns them on. Second of all, MEN LOVE SEX AND WOMEN, it is natural and nothing to feel ashamed about. Also women know this all too well. However what do you with this sexual energy? If you use it jerking off while using pornographic material, you prove that you are anxious, insecure and are isolated. Women sense that and it turns them off. However if you use this energy by bettering yourself with weight lifting, reading, practicing a hobby that improves an ability and being creative, you feel better about yourself, happy and find joy in things that don't revolve around women. Again women sense a man that is confident, energetic, master of himself and control of himself. This turns them on. It is my hypothesis but I'm only at my seventeenth day. Also I believe what Powerous wrote above makes a lot of sense.I will find out if I make it to 90 days. As I said before, we love women and sex, it influences a lot of our behavior on a conscious level,subconscious and unconscious level, whether we want to admit or not, but we don't need to be a slave to these passions, to porn and masturbation.
     
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  6. ALEX_88

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    great post!
     
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  7. D121

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    Great story dude! hope you will make it as far as you want ;-)
     
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  8. mechie

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    All the Best..
     
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  9. Cool_Bro

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    Congratulations brother. Keep up the good work and enjoy a healthy life !! :)
     
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  10. You can buy pheromones like parfumes and they do shit.
     
  11. Nice post very motivational thank you.
     
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  12. Thanks a lot man. Very moving and motivational. It might just help me post my own thread in 87 days (fingers crossed)
     
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  13. P-Free

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    First, congratulations on such amazing success! You're an inspiration and I'm glad you wrote this post!

    For the things you listed as "Bad News": It sounds to me like a flatline. If you haven't already, read up on them. With a previous streak of 200 days, I'd be really surprised if you hadn't experienced this before, but anything is possible. :) Your desire and morning erections WILL come back, I promise! This is just part of the process. PLEASE don't fall for the trap that gets so many guys: "My penis isn't working! I'd better pmo to make sure everything is okay!" Trust me, it's okay! And, it's not worth relapsing to prove it. Just trust the process, man. Especially since you're not planning on being with a woman any time soon, do yourself a favor and find a way to let that worry go.

    And keep doing the fantastic work you're doing! You're amazing, man!
     
  14. GratifiedSlave

    GratifiedSlave Fapstronaut

    Amazing post it is! I mean how much benefits there are in refraining from PMO and still majority of us is involved in this curse knowing all the perks of avoiding it and all the side-effects of doing it. I'm very much excited and confident as well to see these results in me soon as well. InShaAllah. :)
     
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  15. chazer2010

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    very inspirational bro keep going!
     
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  16. duzz3r

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    Just my take on the "female attraction" subject: I think you already gave the answer to this yourself: confidence.
    I'm no sex symbol, but I do think I'm a good looking guy, something around an 8. I have a lot of female friends and all of them tells me that I am one of the better looking guys they know... And it didn't matter squat before I went into NoFap. Girls used to think I'm handsome but there were no real interest ou desire for me.

    I'm currently on day 34 and the change is incredible because of my confidence. My body language has changed, the way I speak is different. My behaviour is way more "alpha", with girls or whatever. Chicks dig that stuff!

    Keep on going bro! Congrats.
     
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  17. ShotDunyun

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    Thanks to all of you for your replies. Today was not a good day for me, since I felt very socially awkward, weak. It's not the end on the world, I've felt 10 times worse and I know it's part of the rebooting process. I'm telling you this so you can expect what's coming and be prepared. Keep fighting my brothers!
     
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  18. P-Free

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    Thanks for sharing. We're all in this together, my friend! We support each other and get strength from each other when we need it. You can do this; I'm happy for and proud of you - 91 days! Keep up the good fight and reach out if you ever need support!
     
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  19. cloudymood

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    Thanks for that story ! Very inspiring
     
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  20. sebastian182

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    So when did you start to feel women attraction brother??

    after 60 days??

    congratulations dude!.
     
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