Thoughts on sexual activity while on a P and M reboot

As I mentioned in a previous thread, I am comitted to abstain from porn and masterbation going forward... I haven't decided for how long yet but certainly the forseeable future and hopefully forever with porn.

Ive been out of the country for about a month, but before I left I had met a really sweet and pretty girl and we hab gone on 2 dates... nothing happened between us physically but I felt a connection even though I was masterbating at the time. Recently shes been sending me messages saying she wants to meet up when im home to talk about my trip.. so..great! Having a woman in my life should certainly keep me motivated to keep my reboot going. My only concern about this is that things will progress quickly since there is already a physical and emotional attraction between us..(not a concern most guys have lol) Ive had issues in the past getting and maintaining an erection (mostly with strangers ive just met mind you, who I have less of a connection with during sex) this was likely due to my constant masterbation and unrealistic fantasies.

My question is, if things work out well between us, and I feel sexually aroused enough from a few weeks of nofap that I think I can perform during sex, should I go for it? I would hate to miss out on a good opportunity to boost my confidence as well as possibly build a relationship with a woman which has eluded me for so long because Im so set on avoiding all forms of sexual stimulation for 90 days.

Thoughts?

MJ

 

in the past all of my "successful" encounters envolved my mind drifting away into porn/fantasy land which allowed me to stay hard but didnt allow me to connect with my partner. Ive always been a frequent masterbater so maybe Im feeling overly confident about the power of NoFap in the short term but id think that after a few weeks of not touching myself I will have built up enough tension that normal sex would seem appealing again, especially who someone who I genuinely like. I think im going to play it by year and see how things go. Im not going to restrict myself from sex if it seems right.. it could be the perfect opportunity to rewire my sexuality towards real sex rather than masterbating with my imagination.