Thougth first date went well, but....

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by SorryWontSayIt, Jul 31, 2020.

  1. SorryWontSayIt

    SorryWontSayIt Fapstronaut

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    Hi!

    So I have been chatting with a girl from tinder for a few weeks now. Yesterday we met for the first time. To me it seemed like the first date went really well, and not long after the date she sent me a snapchat (just casual).
    (The date could have lasted longer, but her family was going to visit her for the weekend).

    So here is the "issue". I don't know if this is me just overthinking or what. Normally she would send me a few snaps/texts every day, but I have only got one not longer after the date, and non texts today. I know it may be because shes a bit busy, but at the same time, I know shes not that busy, and I'v seen that she have put up a my-story on snapchat, etc.

    Should I just forget about her already? Or is it just me overthinking?

    (Will give her space at least. Sent her a respons to her snap/text yesterday, and sent one snapchat picture today (casual snapchat that was sent to a few friends too).

    I know this may be rushed or stupid. I guess I lack a bit of experience. But I feel ready to date, and if shes not interested I can move on.
     
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  2. Lilla_My

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    Those apps are meat market apps. Women go there to get their self esteem fix by men who likes them. Once the dopamine hit is over, you are also over. If you wanna hook up temporarily and are good looking, those virtual hang outs are great. If you, on the other hand, are looking for connection and possibly a relationship, go somewhere else. She got your attention and has likely moved on.
     
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  3. Numezz

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    My friend found girlfriend on tinder and they are together for over a year now. She got pretty good personality and they plan on living together. He was all over the app though, not wasting time on any particular girl too much, was not even looking who he liked just swiped everyone and looked only after matches :D

    I guess you are wasting way too much time thinking and chatting with 1 girl. If you are not in a relationship yet, talk and date as much girls as possible.
    Dont wait on her, you are not in a relationship with her so move on.

    Btw for all the people reading this, I would not recommend dating apps and websites to a porn addict.
     
  4. SorryWontSayIt

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    Thanks for reply to both! :)

    Yeah, I have swiped many, and chatted with a few. And will keep swiping I guess. Just have not had such great conversation with other girls as I have had with her. But I won't wait.

    And yeah, I know I am not in a relationship :) Just don't want to hurt anyone, thats why I may match and chat with a few girls, but only ask one girl at a time one dates.

    And it is true what you say regarding these apps.
     
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  5. p1n1983

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    Not true. there are girls like that in the app but also you can find them at bars too. I have 2 of my best friends married with woman they met on tinder/happn.
    is probably that she loose interest in you after the date. you are new, you could made a few mistakes, failed all her test and don't even know it. Everybody gets better at dating with experience and advice of more experienced people.
    no matter how busy she is, if she is interested she will make time to talk to you. Don't try to justify her lack of contact.
    You are the man, make a move. Ask her out for another date and see what she responds. If she makes it really difficult to have a second date because she is sooo busy, then move on, she probably lost all interest in you. If she say yes right away go out and have fun a see what happens.
    It took me a lot of years to digest this, but finally i was able to date more than one woman at the same time and it was the best. This gave me the abundance mentality witch is essential to choose the right girl to be exclusive with.
    So true! ask the woman out, is she say no or makes it hard, move on. Life is too short to wait for a girl that don't reciprocate our interest.
     
  6. SorryWontSayIt

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    Thanks for replys! :)

    Well, she felt a bit distant yesterday, but after her family left she have been sending a lot of texts/snaps to me. More then normal.

    Will ask her out on a second date tomorrow.

    But as you guys says, I can see the point of dating more then one girl at a time, but at the same time, I am really afraid I will hurt someone (even tho we are not in a relationship).
     
  7. RIPZYZZ

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    You're overthinking it, also in my opinion chattin/snapping online is the worst way to spend time dating. Use the texting to arrange a new date (if you want to see her again), this way you're not stuck staring at the phone waiting for a new message, and if she's interested she'll meet up. If she doesn't want to meet up again, you got your awnser, and you can move on and don't spend time overthinking, waiting. You can use that time for FUN stuff/self improvement.
     
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  8. RIPZYZZ

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    You're overthinking it, also in my opinion chattin/snapping online is the worst way to spend time dating. Use the texting to arrange a new date (if you want to see her again), this way you're not stuck staring at the phone waiting for a new message, and if she's interested she'll meet up. If she doesn't want to meet up again, you got your awnser, and you can move on and don't spend time overthinking, waiting. You can use that time for FUN stuff/self improvement.
     
  9. SorryWontSayIt

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    Thanks for the replys! :)

    Last friday I noticed she texted less, gave her space and went on with my day. Saturday I kept doing the same, then she all the sudden started to text me a lot late on the day. I answered. I told her about my plans, and asked if she wanted to join, she told me she was busy with work (which I knew she would be), but she was not working the whole day. So I thougth to my self that now the ball is in her hands, and if shes interested she will show it better. Sunday, we texted a few texts. After that we have not talked for 5 days now. So moved on :). Would be hard to make something more out of it, since I am moving away soon anyways.

    Will take it as a experience for later. Will just keep focusing on myself, as I have been doing most of this summer :) Never felt better, so does not really matter to much to me that it did not work out. (Felt a bit bad the first day, after I noticed she may not be as interested as I had hoped, but the second day it was alright).
     

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