Tired of running away

Hello! Welcome to nofap! Joining this community (and admitting you have a problem with PMO) is the first step to quitting PMO for good. I know how hard it can be to take those first steps, and the fact that you've done that is great!

Some advice I could give you about the urges is to use the "PANIC BUTTON" at the upper right hand of your screen on this website, in red, you can't miss it. When you click it, it will take you to a separate page with an emergency button, relapse button, depression button, and rejection button (I have this page pinned to my search bar on my computer). When you click any of these, encouragement in the form of a video, quote, or post will come your way. This has helped me so much when I get urges, I just spam click the Emergency button and read through countless quotes and watch a handful of encouraging videos until the urge begins to (slowly) subside.
Another thing that has helped me is fleeing from any electronics. Act like they are on fire. Don't touch it, don't get near it. Electronics are tools we use, but because they are tools they can be used for good and for bad (and during urges, believe me it'll be bad). Just leave the room where it is. Stick your phone in a drawer, shut your laptop and put it in a bag, shut down your computer and walk out of the room. Flee from them before you find yourself drawn to them.
Getting outside does wonders. I personally don't do this much, and I wish I did (something I'm working on). Just leaving the environment you're in when you get urges, particularly leaving it to go outside, is a great way to get the urges to subside. If you're at home, just leave. Open the front door and go for a run around the block. Get some exercise. If you're at work, it will be harder, but try to get outside. You can't really exercise or go for a run at work, but you can stand out in the sun for a few minutes and just take in some fresh air.
A fellow fapstronaut once gave me some advice that has kept me from PMOing several times. They said that when you get an urge and start to edge, if you have the control to, step back. Mentally picture yourself from a third person point of view doing what you are about to do, mentally picture yourself PMOing from a third person point of view. It's disgusting and shameful when you see yourself doing it from the outside, and it deters you from going through with it. It can also help to think of what loved ones, friends, or family members would think if they saw you (assuming they share your distaste for PMO).
Talking to someone can help a lot. When you get an urge, stand up, find someone you know (or pick up a phone and call someone) and just chat. This gets your mind off of porn and it gets you to socialize, which is a great way to avoid PMOing. You'll associate the fact that you are talking to a person to the fact that you were about to look at "just pixels on a screen," except now you'll realize those are actual people and by supporting their porn you are, in a sense, hurting their human dignity as well as yours. Socialization during urges is a great way to get your mind off of PMOing.

I hope some of my advice helps you. Good luck with you on your journey!

 

Welcome! I'm glad you're here. Keep coming back!

I think if you look around at what others have shared, you'll find lots of good guidance and example.

 

occupy your mind and stay busy. Commit to every day. Don't touch your genitals at all. Get a filter. And pursue the things that interest you.
im here if you need to talk