Today is day 90

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  1. pp7711

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    Today is day 90. I didn't ever think I'd get this far. :emoji_calendar:

    I'd like to thank::)
    • The people who post their experiences of success - you inspire me.
    • The people who like or comment on my posts in this forum - your acknowledgement is appreciated.
    • The administrators of this site - you've given me a voice.
    What I've learnt::emoji_mortar_board:
    • P is fake and a waste of time
    • Not touching yourself requires discipline and faith
    • Real life experiences are more valuable and memorable than screen based fantasies
    • Fighting pmo helps me improve my outlook on life
    • To take one day at a time
    What can I honestly say::emoji_ballot_box_with_check:
    • Urges remain but the likelihood of me sitting in front of this very screen and searching p is the lowest it has been in my adult life.
    • I am vulnerable when I have my phone at my bedside (I must be disciplined to leave it downstairs).
    • I feel more attracted to real life women!
    • I must be careful of p-subs and I must distinguish between accidentally seeing something and actively pursuing.
    • The first 30 days were the hardest.
    • Day counters are important but not the be all and end all.
    No surrender.
    Fight, fight and fight some more.
     
  2. Well done pp7711,
    Terrific effort.
    You are now where I want to eventually be.
    I’ve tried countless times to get to 90 days. This is the longest I’ve ever been. Which is 32 days.
    Did you ever fail with previous attempts or as this your first?
    Any other tips on how you got through this?
     
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  3. pp7711

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    Hi Putney,

    I managed to get about 90 days many years ago but this is my first conscious effort.

    This is my first effort since acknowledging the dangers of p and my vulnerability.

    I suppose I got to 90 by focussing on 30 day chunks.

    I said that the first 30 were the hardest. Once I got there I realised I had a good chance at making 60 and then onto 90.

    Well done on getting over 30, head down to 60. You're over half way there.

    Quite simply: one day at a time.

    Go for it..
     
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  4. THEBEATPOLICE

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    Nice job dude. I keep reading the success stories hoping I will find out about super powers, but that is just my P riddled brain fantasizing. Your post is very realistic about expectations (i think.....i wouldnt know i havent gotten to 90 yet).

    congrats
     
  5. Nekkhamma

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    Awesoooooooome! Thanks for sharing, great stuff :)
     
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  6. Hros

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    Congratulations man!
     
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  7. Lovely... gonna make 90 myself soon. And i honestly feel the same way. Glad you are strong one that will fight PM. All the best!
     
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  8. Walk_it_out

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    Amazing work! Keep pushing onward into your new lifestyle!
     
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  9. Innervision

    Innervision Fapstronaut

    Congrats on your progress! Very lucid summary you gave to us

    In my experience, this one of the most difficult parts. As the days go by, you understand that merely will power won't work against the urges and the old habits built through so many years.

    This I can relate too. Sometimes day counters can be misleading and make you the impression that you just need the time to pass to reboot appropriately. It's better, as you also mentioned, to look for one day at a time.

    Amazing work! Keep it up! cheers
     
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  10. Rajkamalk

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    Thanks for sharing.. It was motivating in a sense & I do share your opinions. I started my reboot 10 days ago & but failed at day 5 & ended up Edging & then PMO on next day. And I felt disappointed & disgusted about myself. That it wasn't worth it & I felt very of giving in to something that has destroyed my health, my personality, my education life (failed for straight 2 years in Engineering ) & my ability to communicate with other people. The brain fog has left me unable to concentrate on anything except for Porn & useless social media feed.

    I finally had the guts to acknowledge my porn addiction & made an effort to take back my life.. But after that Relapse.. I kind of gave up hope but then read few Success stories.. Majority of them mentioned just like you that the first 30 Days are the hardest & how they too Relapsed during that period. So it motivated me to continue again. I set a Reset & this is my 4th day on Hard Mode. No PMO or anything arousing at all. Also trying the Cold Shower & Breathing techniques too.

    Your experience story is really ensuring for me in a way. Would love to get any advice from you that could help me get better at this. Keep up with the updates. That helps a lot of people like us.
     
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  11. pp7711

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    Hi Rajkalmalk

    Thanks for your message, I appreciate it.

    I'm not brave enough to try cold showers so huge respect to you for that!

    One thing that has worked for me is piggy backing nofap with something that I am also abstaining from. I'm currently abstaining from alcohol and haven't had a drink in nearly 3 years.

    This helps me beat pmo because I know I'm not going to have a drink anytime soon so say to myself I'm not allowed to pmo while I'm not drinking. Could you try something similar with a vice you have under control?

    Keep using this forum is another positive step.

    Keep busy, get to 10 days then just do one day at a time.

    If it helps - I am a complete stranger to you but I believe in you and want you to succeed.

    If this msg helps in any way, that's great. Writing this is helping me.

    Stay strong and I dare you to get to 30 days. No surrender.
     
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  12. Powerous

    Powerous Fapstronaut

    Congrats bro!
     
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  13. Rajkamalk

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    Thanks. I will try to piggyback my no PMO decision with something else. I'll see if it helps me abstain at a more stronger level.

    And yeah.. Challenge Accepted !! Lol
     
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  14. Silent Pearl

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    Congrats !! man
     
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  15. AEC Josh2415

    AEC Josh2415 Fapstronaut

    Congratulations. Well done!
     
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  16. Asgardian36

    Asgardian36 Fapstronaut

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    great post, man! I appreciate it!!!
     
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  17. GoldenChance

    GoldenChance New Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations! great work.
     
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  18. vijay8613

    vijay8613 Fapstronaut

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    Congratulations man
    Hope One day i will be there.
     
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  19. Great post! Knowing yourself, your weaknesses and taking steps to prevent relapse are extremely important.
     
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  20. MD97

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    congrats man
     
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