Trying to make a few changes this summer

[JW1234]

Hi guys

Ive found myself looking at a lot of videos and threads on abstaining from PMO and decide to give this a go. Ive found myself caught up recently with work at uni and neglecting my social and sexual life since breaking up with my girlfriend and im going to try and use this summer break ive got coming up as a turning point for a lot of this. I guess ive felt like my lifes become a bit boring and repetitive recently and i feel like i need to make some changes myself to try and give my confidence a bit of a boost. Ive applied to try and get a job so i can afford to go more and try and to shape up my character a bit a swell.

Anyways look forward to talking with a lot of you in the future. If anyone has any advice on how to try and get through the first few weeks then it would be appreciated!

 

[Lostcause]

Welcome! Not quite sure what advice I can give. This has been a tough 14 days for me. I've had numerous occasions where I could have given in so easily. Something inside just pushes the dial ever so slightly so that I haven't. It's a bitch.

 

[LookUp]

Hi guys

Ive found myself looking at a lot of videos and threads on abstaining from PMO and decide to give this a go. Ive found myself caught up recently with work at uni and neglecting my social and sexual life since breaking up with my girlfriend and im going to try and use this summer break ive got coming up as a turning point for a lot of this. I guess ive felt like my lifes become a bit boring and repetitive recently and i feel like i need to make some changes myself to try and give my confidence a bit of a boost. Ive applied to try and get a job so i can afford to go more and try and to shape up my character a bit a swell.

Anyways look forward to talking with a lot of you in the future. If anyone has any advice on how to try and get through the first few weeks then it would be appreciated!

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[Deleted Account]

Hi guys

Ive found myself looking at a lot of videos and threads on abstaining from PMO and decide to give this a go. Ive found myself caught up recently with work at uni and neglecting my social and sexual life since breaking up with my girlfriend and im going to try and use this summer break ive got coming up as a turning point for a lot of this. I guess ive felt like my lifes become a bit boring and repetitive recently and i feel like i need to make some changes myself to try and give my confidence a bit of a boost. Ive applied to try and get a job so i can afford to go more and try and to shape up my character a bit a swell.

Anyways look forward to talking with a lot of you in the future. If anyone has any advice on how to try and get through the first few weeks then it would be appreciated!

Hi. Welcome to forum!

Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!