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Watching porn vs detailed fantasies

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by ToMMy.H, Oct 4, 2020.

  1. Oct 4, 2020 #1
    ToMMy.H

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    Fellow fapstronauts, I red in a pretty good book (psychocybernetics - maxwell maltz) that the human nervous system cannot tell the difference between an actual experience and an experience imagined vividly and in detail

    It got me thinking. I stopped watching porn for quite some time now. But I still have these fantasies. Sometimes they are super strong sometimes I can control them.
    The thing is, if I dont watch porn but still at least once in a week have very detailed fantasy which includes exactly the stuff I used to watch (abuse, domination,...), if it isnt exactly the same as watching the porn.

    I mean the very datiled fantasies, which many times led me to edging ->relapsing.
    I have to admit that on my journey leeding to my current streak I did some edging here and there, but always stopped -> after that I experienced intense sex thoughts, fantasies.

    So I am asking you, what are your experiences with this, what are your thoughts on this topic.
    Does intense detailed sex fantasies (which are heavily rooted in porn I used watch) are the same as watching the porn?

    Thanks guys!
     
    ToMMy.H, Oct 4, 2020
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  2. Oct 4, 2020 #2
    PrinceDaniel

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    Personally, I developed some toxic fetishes because of watching porn for years.
    I really have a burning desire to get rid of this creapy stuff forever.
    I've deleted all porn, fetish video's, socialmedia and dating platforms from my life.
    But after a few days of PMO these evil fantasies come into my mind.
    I found out that my fetishes will eventually destroy me; to me it's like pure evil.
    When my fantasies come into my mind, I'll fight it agressively by saying:

    ''These thoughts will eventually destroy me.
    I know the devil is trying to trick me by making me feel good on the short term.
    But today he won't fool me.
    God, grant me strenght and courage to fight this evil.''

    It works for me. Over time the fantasies will fade, because what you feed will grow, but if you don't it will eventually die.
     
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  3. Oct 4, 2020 #3
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    Porn induced fetish will go away if you stop watching porn and masturbating to it. Porn is nothing but a voyeur. When you're watching porn, you're basically the one who's watching two people having sex. It develops a fetish called voyeurism. If you don't stop watching porn, then in real life you cannot enjoy real sex because by having orgasm in porn, you brain has been messed up. You can only have orgasm when you watch two people having sex which makes you a cuck because you have trained your brain like it by watching porn.

    When you quit porn, your brain reboots and all those weird fetishes will go away on its own. You just have to hang in there.
     
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  4. Oct 4, 2020 #4
    InappropriateUsername

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    Jerking off to fantasy is no different to porn, as your book pretty much points out.

    edging is bad. If you want to quit porn, stop edging. You’re just prolonging the release of pleasurable brain chemicals, making you more likely to do it more frequently and longer. Basically, making it harder to quit and not become addicted.
     
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