What´s your top 3 positive rewrds you look forward to the most?

More time to cultivate real friendships and meaningful relationships. More energy to exercise and keep my mind, body, and spirit healthy. More passion to once again do the things I love that bring me true joy and help me to grow. Thanks for asking and focusing us on the positives!

 

1. Regain a greater appreciation for my wife's body and her sexuality instead of wallowing in the unrealistic worlds created by porn and my own fantasy.

2. Regain and redirect my time, my energy, sexual health and my thoughts back to what they are meant for.

3. Cultivate a sense of self respect and self control in my life.

I really like this post, thanks for the prompt to remind us of our goalposts, it's easy to get lost.

 

I just have one really, to sort out the DE/ED problem that has crept in to my life. I guess a result of that is more confidence/less anxiety in the bedroom.

 

1. beat frustration, regain my self-confidence and character

2. be more productive and manage my time better, stop wasting long hours on P

3. regain focus and sense of purpose, lose mental fog

 

1. Self confidence and self esteem

2. Productivity

3. Recurring wet dreams (which I have never experienced in my life)

4. An end to potentially awkward moments (locked doors, hidden files, deleted history, cumstains, long showers, the habit of touching myself down there, etc.)

5. Religious rewards of not sinning

6. Finding real women attractive. Making myself "ready" for my first night (if it ever happens) and to avoid ED.


#4 has happened to me and it's such a relief. The rest is slowly starting to happen, although productivity might've decreased for me because I'm now fantasizing more than usual. I also haven't experienced a wet dream yet.

 

1. Let people use my labtop without being scared. I'd be shitting my pants when someone was using my labtop, hoping they wouldn't go through my folders or read my history.

2. Look at girls as more than walking pussies. I just think of them as walking tools right now but I realize that they are human beings.

3. Less time wasted on PMO.

 

This is a very inspiring thread, have got a lot out of reading others hopes and goals, so many benefits to be had, some here I hadn't considered myself, thankyou all, I will re-read these when I am feeling lost.

 

1. Get my self-confidence and self-esteem back up

2. Raise my testosterone to maximize my training naturally and become more manly and also to have more sexual motivation to approach the opposite sex

3. Feel pure

 

1) decreasing social awkwardness
2) being able to say that I dropped this shameful habit
3) having the confidence to be with women

Glad this resource is here. The internet is truly a double-edged sword: it got us into this mess, but it can provide us with redemption.

 

1) Renewed energy and balance
2) Freedom/control shameful thoughts
3) The discipline to work for whatever I want to get in life

 

1) Regain control of myself. Or get closer to having control at least =P

2) Focus more on the real than abstract; do instead of hope; live instead of dream.

3) Get my days back. My time, my freedom, my memory; liberation.

 

Its discipline . Its strength. Its just the right thing for me to do in every way. Its a new found issue that has enlightened me in many ways. It is also hard not to do when urged!

 

1. meaningful relationships
2. no ED anymore
3. peace--i'm LDS

 

Mine are like the exact same as yours, Nofaphoffy.

 

1)Happy marriage in the future
2)Salvation
3)Example of success and support for those who need it

 

Mindset
Under the influence of PMO I view things through lenses of hate, despair, distrust, and fear.
Free from PMO my perspective of myself, others, and the world at large is significantly more useful. I am enabled through this mindset to achieve and acquire those things that matter most.

The following thought crossed my mind several months back - I quite like the wordplay to describe the benefits of a good perspective:

Mindset: Set Yourself Up for Success
Beginning from the outset
with a healthy, productive mindset
heavily influences the onset
of the desired set.​

Energy
Under the influence of PMO I am lethargic physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally.
Free from PMO I have a great deal more energy in these same respects.
Energy is perhaps the most vital component which influences change.

Time
Under the influence of PMO I make terrible use of the gift of each day.
Free from PMO perceptive planning and investment of time comes more naturally.
Time is the vehicle or means through which energy may be used.

 

1: intimate dreams: when i stop looking at porn for long enough my wet dreams become long, complex and intimate. most of the "action" in them is just kissing.
2: perceptual changes: i see not only myself but everyone else as a more beautiful person, completely regardless of any other bias i would have towards them. people just look better.
3: optimism: PMO keeps me in a rut of hopeless thoughts and depression over nothing. even when i do productive things they seem pointless when i've PMO'd recently. i can't wait for the fog to be gone.

 

1) I'm hoping it will help me be more confident around other people.

2) I want to prove to my friend that it's a good thing to do and try convince him to do the same.

3) It will prove to myself that I can stop and that will help me fix other problems in my life.