I was just thinking: what are our sexualities for? After all we just assume that our sexualities are something we have, and don't give much further thought about them. But what are they for? Biologically speaking, the answer to that question is quite obvious. Reproduction. And many people (even some religious communities) agree. Sex is just for reproduction. It has no other purpose. But is that the sum total of our sexualities? Doesn't it feel like something is missing? On the other end of the spectrum you have the nihilistic account of sexuality: sex can be whatever you want it to be. That is, there is no underlying purpose or teleology to sex. It is simply something humans experience. This sort of perspective usually expresses itself through functional hedonism. Your sexuality, like your appetite, is simply another vehicle for you to obtain pleasure. And there is nothing wrong with having a little bit of fun, right? So you can have sex with as many people as you want, masturbate to as much porn as you want because, hey, sex feels nice and you have a right to feel sexual pleasure. This seems to me to be the dominate perspective among porn users. And then there is the middle road. People who recognize that too much sexual activity can be harmful, but don't necessarily agree that we should limit the sexual act to just reproduction. These type of people usually argue that sex has a higher function than just reproduction: sex connects us to other people. It strengthens the bonds between couples, knits together the relationship that is at the core of the nuclear family, and, even beyond its function as an intimacy hack, it is emotionally satisfying and uplifting. It allows us to feel some of the most powerful emotions: love, devotion, loyalty, passion. However, is that the sum total of sex? Or does it have another function I have not yet mentioned? Where do you fall out among these three options I highlighted? Or is your perspective a fourth option, which I failed to include? What do you think sex is for?