What should i do to increase my will power..?

why you need will power? you need it to stop you do bad things which you will feel awful after doing it.why not form habits of being well and doing good things.Then my friend,we will not urge yourself to chase will power,because it is with you.

 

It's not will power you need, it's why power.
As an example you need to swim 10miles to reach the closest island. How far will you go because of will power. But if your son was stranded on that island you wouldn't give up, that is Why power. Do you see the difference? That's why you need to focus on your WHY?

 

Go to my post about relapsing same section. Nam Myoho Renge Kyo will do exactly what you're asking for.

 

Willpower is not a decision or mantra, it's more like a muscle that requires training. For many, this may be a little bit of a "witchcraft doctor" approach, but I personally enjoyed introducing cold showers, workouts and intermittent fasting to my life. The three entail choosing something differently (we tend to like one, now we actually choose the 'unliked' option), and doing it whether I want it or not. Intermittent fasting especially has helped me deal with the "arousal" of foods, and get to the point where even walking down aisles that I used to love at the grocery store doesn't make me interested in what they offer. Yes, this also carries over to women on the street, at work, at college, their bodies, movies, ads on Facebook, thumbnails on YouTube and clickbait. I end up choosing differently throughout the day, because I realize there's a choice to be made. Helps tons with my reboot.

Here's the key though, and this is important otherwise you may set yourself up for a big failure. Don't think this way when you bring these practices into your life: "I can't take a hot shower" or "I shouldn't eat after 8pm". Focus on identity, who you are and who you want to be. I just say "I work out daily" instead of "I should work out daily"; "I don't eat after 8pm"; "I take cold showers"; "I don't ogle over women"; "I don't linger over ads"; "I keep scrolling if there's clickbait"; "I click that I'm not interested if YouTube suggests a hot girl in yoga pants as my next video".

This way, you're not teaching your brain that you really like something you just "can't" have, because it will constantly think about it and want to have it - URGES. Now you're training your brain to actually see yourself differently, with a different set of preferences. It's not "I can't watch porn and masturbate anymore", it's "I'm a man who doesn't watch porn or masturbate". See the difference?

Now, grow that muscle. It will help you through the hardest times.

 

^this
The way I, personally, see it:
Meditation every day - Easy difficulty
Work out routine, specific time every day. - Medium difficulty
Cold showers everyday - Hard difficulty

If you can make yourself take cold showers everyday, I don't know what can't you do.

I'm not trained in this field but from my experience, there's a "just do it" lever and then there's a "just don't do it" lever. For example, I'm really good at making myself not do something that I want to do but I suck at making myself do what I don't want to do.

Having an arsenal for both is important as well. There are techniques to engage willpower more effectively, like 5 second rule or mindfulness.

 

Consistent bed time and good sleep is amazing in developing a good attitude for the day ahead. I just realized it today when I woke up at 6:30. On a Sunday.

Every little decision we consciously make puts us one step ahead on our way to dominate our impulses and thoughts. It is possible, I'm experiencing it and it's amazing after so many years of believing I had no control over them.

 

One of the biggest motivators for me is to look at role models who achieved great things in their lives.

When an urge or a negative thought pops up I ask myself "what would my role model do in this situation?".

They certainly didn't sit at home engaging in PMO...

 

Hello The_monk,
First of all, it's a great question to ask.
Normally what I do to increase willpower is to start from very small steps.
Make a target,
suppose,
you want to study, but you are having difficulties in doing it or have zero interest

So, start with 10mins.

Try to study for 10 mins or even less as per your convenience.

Gradually, you will notice, your timing is increasing and you can study for longer minutes and then hours, which indirectly will increase your willpower too. This technique of step by step approach is applicable to anything.

I hope this will help

Small Targets lead to big success.