What to say to a girl who cancels your date ?

FrequencyLimbos · Sep 20, 2021

Spirituss said: ↑

I would like to share with you a conversation I had with a woman I approached on the street last week. We talked for 2 minutes when we met. I took her number and quickly asked her for a drink.
We had a date planned for last night.

Yesterday: I get a message from her saying that she cancels the date.

Here is the conversation (unedited, all authentic). I'm sharing this because it might help a lot of guys to see girls again, to persist even if that girl sends you a stop sign or negative signals.

Me - Is 8:30 pm tonight okay for you?

Her - I'm sorry I didn't answer you earlier. I can't, I'm sorry

Me - It's a shame :/
Is there any particular reason you're cancelling?*

Her - I'll be honest with you, I'm just coming out of a breakup, I know that seeing each other doesn't mean anything but right now I'm really not in the mood for it.
It has nothing to do with you. At first I thought it would be cool (I don't doubt it)
But I don't feel like I can do it.

Me - I do not hide you that I am disappointed ^^
But I understand, it's not easy for you and I hope you will get better soon.
It will remain a beautiful encounter. I liked your naturalness and your authenticity.
(it's a rare quality)

I wish you the best for the future!

Her - You are really nice

I'm so sorry. I might regret it but I'll only blame myself ahah.
It's just not the right time. It's too early for me.

take care of yourself too!

Her - You'll think it's weird but we only have one life. If you're still up for it,we can meet tonight

Her - You'll think I'm crazy ahah

Me - Ahah

Of course I'm still up for it!

Her - Cool, We can meet (place) at 20:30!

Me - Perfect!

All this to say that when you talk to a girl, it's important to never give up. Put yourself in her shoes, show empathy and show her that you want to see her.
Assuming your vulnerability, your intention to connect with her makes you very masculine and attractive.

On the contrary, hiding what you feel causes a certain duality with women. Too much ego.

When she puts a stop to you like that, the best advice I can give you is to tell her what you liked about her, to let her know that she has her reasons for canceling or refusing the date and that you accept it.
You wish her the best
With this mindset I have had many women contact me after months. Telling me that they liked my maturity and that they wanted to see me again.

Even if it ends this way. You leave with dignity and feeling good about yourself. You'll have no regrets
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everything here looks good, the fact that me with my pettiness would've assumed other things like she lied or doesn't really care shows I'm not ready for dating yet.

only thing I'll judge is that she's in a breakup. Imo you shouldn't jump straight back in after a breakup, need time to emotionally/mentally heal.

FrequencyLimbos · Sep 20, 2021

StarRider said: ↑

She is not attracted, she just scrolled down and found your message.

She is not attracted, she wouldn't tell you anything about a breakup if she were.

It has anything to do with you, because she doesn't find you attractive.

She is not attracted. Welcome to the friend zone.

She is still not attracted, but now likes some attention and validation from Mr. Nice Guy.

Do you understand, that you're wasting your time? Time you could spend with a woman actually attracted to you?
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you seem to be Mr, negative right now.
you're 40 years old and on this site quitting pmo, i dare assume you haven't had much success with women? Maybe your jealous or maybe you just speak from experience but your comment speaks for itself.

FrequencyLimbos · Sep 20, 2021

Billybrasco said: ↑

Right on bro. Don’t listen to armchair alphas who never leave their house, much less talk to a girl.

You handled it perfect.
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arm chair alphas, perfect. I forgot that negative guys name already, just like all the women he's talked to haha

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FrequencyLimbos said: ↑

everything here looks good, the fact that me with my pettiness would've assumed other things like she lied or doesn't really care shows I'm not ready for dating yet.

only thing I'll judge is that she's in a breakup. Imo you shouldn't jump straight back in after a breakup, need time to emotionally/mentally heal.
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I wasn't always like this. But I have noticed a correlation between well-being and ego. The better you feel about yourself, the less ego you have.
In relationships ego is the enemy. Except when it comes to setting your limits. That's the only time it's useful.

When I approach a woman, I think about her before my own personal desire. I think that's why it works.

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