What would you say is relapsing?

That sounds like it will set back your recovery, and I would count it if it were me. It wasn't technically masturbation, but it sounds like the objectives were the same. You don't have to start over. Even if you relapse into pmo, you don't have to start over. You still made progress and it doesn't magically disappear. It gets set back, but it doesn't disappear. You shouldn't cut out a social life, but maybe adjust it. If your focus is on sex/ sex related things, that will make quitting much harder. I think you should try spending time with people under different circumstances. Talking to girls at a bar normally only leads in one direction.

 

What are you talking about @Icyweb? The only thing you said which is true is that it wasn't masturbation. @Chintan has a counter which plainly gives the criteria for a reset as PMO. So how is having a semi hard on and some pre-cum got anything to do with P, M or O? You cannot impute bad motives to him. He did nothing wrong! *sigh*

 

Sorry for the late reply.
Because I see pmo as a symptom and a cause of a problem with objectification. Looking at people as objects and treating yourself as an object instead of making a real human connection. Dancing that produces a semi erection and pre-cum sound like the same mentality. So the symptom is different, but the underlying issue is the same. That's why I would count it as a relapse.
This quote from a different thread may help explain my position.

I would extend that to include your partner as your wife, and hope others will too, but even if you don't I think we can mostly agree that treating people as objects is wrong.