Why is the divorce rate so high in America?

I think idiots is not the right term. It's not rocket science to know what love is and what it feels like. It's how we react when we're in the midst of this sensation. Do we allow ourselves to be immersed in this amazing feeling while ignoring the potential downsides, or are we already aware of the consequences? Some people are just simply naive, inexperienced, or haven't seen both sides of a relationship. What I mean by that is being aware of the positives and negatives. The pros and cons.

Like you said, for one to think that being in love is great and that everything will go well is oblivious. You need to experience everything from what's good to bad to be able to understand what love is truly like. When you lose someone in a relationship or marriage, that love goes away and there is nothing but hurt. Then what? You allow yourself to heal and learn to love again by not repeating the same mistakes over and over.

Again, I don't believe people are idiots. You're only an idiot if you keep making the same mistakes. Everybody wants to be loved and cared for, but like I said, it's how we react. Some have never learned to love themselves, and that's why they make mistakes by being too needy. It's not being dumb, it's a natural response from being neglected for so long. And at some point, they can't tolerate being lonely any longer and they need someone to make them feel better. And when they lose the one and only person that has ever loved them, that's when their world crashes.

But if that person looks back, and realizes what he or she did wrong, that's when experience and wisdom comes into play. And stupidity is out of the question. It's where personal growth truly happens. You don't take things for granted, and you appreciate the people who will come into your life more often. Someday, that person could be the one who will stick with you for the rest of your life, knowing that both of you have experienced the same thing.

 

Hey it could go both ways lol

 

I think individualism and the concept of independence is more of a privilege than anything else. That's just my opinion. Everything has its ups and downs, and it relates to what I'm talking about that's all.

 

First of all, where I'm from, there is no such thing as "freedom." I'm sure you have an idea of what Communism is right? As you can see, everything is controlled by the government. If they thought you were good enough to be a garbage man, that's what you'd probably be. I just feel that individualism and independence, to me at least, is close to a privilege than anything else. It's not easy coming from a place like mine, but if my people had the privilege to be free such as here, then things would be a lot easier.

For you, the term privilege, may be more of a right than anything else. It's something that you work hard on to earn, whatever it may be. But then again, freedom itself isn't entirely free. Back in my country, you don't have control over anything. In America, however, you choose to be free or you don't, and that's the bottom line. But the thing is, even if you're free in a physical aspect, mentally you may be not.

 

Alright. I see what you're saying. If you read the title of my post, it says: Why is the divorce rate so high in America? I was wondering if you can share your ideas and how it applies to the divorce rate in this country.

 

Maybe I am contradicting myself. Or maybe the concept of individualism and independence, is only part of the real problem (the divorce rate in America). That's what I'm really focusing on. And yes, I would agree that these ideas are considered perks, if you will.

 

Finally there is someone who is on the same page as me. Thank you. I agree with most of what you're saying, but I'm just curious as to how you've developed this mindset. It's kind of similar to mine. Also, I believe that your ideas on individualism, marriage as being a compromise, the components of love and respect that are involved, and so on, are crucial for a successful marriage. I never thought about the media having any influence until now, and it makes sense. However, I don't know how much we can do to change state laws. Much of the Fapstronauts have indicated that traditional marriages have slowly lost a key component: religious values. But changing the state laws as well as the laws of the US as a whole is a daunting task. That's something that I cannot speak on although it would be nice if there is a fair share if 2 people did divorce. For me, everything seems lopsided.

 

Can you give me more information on this? Are there facts stating that people celebrate when divorces happen? Especially when there's children involved? Do they celebrate knowing that mommy or daddy are no longer together? Divorces may provide a relief for one side of the party, but I don't think celebrating should be a part of it.

I've lived in the United States for 30 years, and never have I heard, or have I been to a divorce party for that matter.

Are you a religious person yourself? Because if you are, you wouldn't be saying these things. Marriage is not only personal, but sacred. It is to be taken seriously, and it doesn't matter what religion you are.

I think you may have some false beliefs because it's not always true.