Why people relapse after a big streak?

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  1. patd

    patd Fapstronaut

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    @SREENII recently for me t's one motivational video, quote for a week that hIave to read in a difficult moment. I used to watch this scene from Punisher
    Right now it's more triggering singing girl

    but what it's similar is that it motivates me a lot. They'ressuccessful because they are struggling in a life. All urges are coming from procrastination. When you have to do sth with someone you won't do PMO. I also have choosen a few goals for myself. The main goal is to create a company that will make money but also visualize my dreams. Now I'm so busy that I don't even have time to think about PMO. Eventually if it comes I feel like I have to do sth like go for a walk or meet someone. Recently I have decided to live with a friend to avoid being alone. But yeah keep yourself busy. Call you're family if you feel irges coming. Also good method is visualizing yourself from a third person. How it looks when you're doing it? First two weeks of actual strike I used to come to this site and read some wise words. I admit that it's a reason why I came here today. Writing is helping me a lot because when I think that I'm behaving like a loser it's stops me. Before you start looking for beautiful photos write down that it's the moment when you will relapse and become a loser. How it feels? I mean you have to find sth that stops you from PMO
     
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  2. letter

    letter Distinguished Fapstronaut

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    I’ve relapsed into binging on day 150.

    Many addictions can be called false comforts. They are the things we do to make ourselves feel okay when we are down.

    In my case, someone really hurt me and caused me tremendous stress on day 150. Even though I was doing really good on my streak, like no urges and was excited to keep going, I was still vulnerable because of some unaddressed issues that were like buttons waiting to get pushed.

    You need to get rid of your buttons. You need to have things in place so that when something does get pushed, you can focus on getting rid of that button rather than going to your false comfort. Having real comforts to help you deal with life as it happens is key.
     
  3. SREENII

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    yeah..boredom, laziness and loneliness are the main reasons for PMO..if we keep ourselves busy and social all the time there will not be any problem..many people are excusing that stress and work pressure force them to do PMO..but if you are socially engaged all the time..go for a movie with a friend or go to shopping mall or a club..it will give you relief..if you do things mindfully (that is being in the present moment itself) all your problems will be gone.after watching an interesting movie you'll feel a relief..because you're completely involved in it..likewise completely involve in the tasks you do..then you will not get any time to think about you and be depressed..simply saying while "you brush your tooth..you should be brushing consciously..the mind should not wander that time..you should be 100% involved in what you are doing.."when people get freetime and when they are lonely they will get negative thoughts like doing pmo, depression on thinking about past, anxiety on worrying about future..so make sure you are busy all the time..create a situation to become busy..also i've one more suggestion..if possible read the book "THE POWER OF SUBCONSCIOUS MIND" by joseph murphy..it can guide you to success
     
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  4. patd

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    @SREENII I will even read that book this week ;) thanks mate for recommendation!
     
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  5. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    I personally relapsed after 700 and more because i was far from my gf and don't getting laid for something like 20 days. I just had extreme pain in my balls so i went for it. The relapse didnt affect me in anyway: i went right back in track and started this new streak, which is close to a full year atm.
     
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  6. You relapsed at day 700 :emoji_astonished:. What about me who is doing nofap hardmode o_O
     
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  7. phwrancesco

    phwrancesco Fapstronaut

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    i personally am not interested in hard mode, neither i think is healty. For me one of the best things of nofap is the confidence you gain with women, if you choose celibacy you're loosing all the fun Lol.
    In all seriousness, i think most of the people who refuses women is scared by them, thats why hard mode is not psychologically healty for me.

    To conclude, forgive me if i'm being too harsh with you, but doing hard mode maybe has some value if you can go on a 700 plus days streak.
    If you choose hard mode but relapse every 7 days, well youre wasting time!

    Sorry for being a lil salty but thats an advice i really felt to give!
     
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  8. Its not that I'm scared by women, its just that I didn't find yet the woman that I want. I'm doing hard mode because I don't have a girlfriend.

    I agree with you, but I think it's not that easy. It's hard to control the urges to watch porn at day 7. I don't know what's your goal for doing nofap, but for me I'm just doing it because I heard people saying that it has a lot of benefits that's all.
     
  9. Sleepingbadger

    Sleepingbadger Fapstronaut

    I relapsed at 333 days a while back. I was in a really stressful situation back then and most likely I unconsciously remembered PMO as a coping mechanism for stress and couldn't resist it. It was strange since I didn't have almost any urges at all for months before that relapse.
     
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  10. phwrancesco

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    so you're talking about involuntary hard mode! i've been there, thats pretty hard LOL good luck!
     
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  11. Fullyawake

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    I think we get a good streak and get complacent. I think relapses are usually mistakes from edging. People soon realise they’ve reached the point of no return and that’s it.
     
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