Women that helps nofappers to rewire

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Free your mind, May 8, 2020.

  1. Free your mind

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    Wouldnt that be cool?
    To have some therapeutic community of women who would help us rewire?
    Like, when you reach certain number of days, you can connect with a woman, get to know each other and meet for therapy. The therapy would consist of talking, looking at, making out, smelling, touching, undressing, getting used to be near women and so on..
    That would help many guys, but I can't think of any women community which would have benefits from that as well.
    What do you think, am I too utopistic? :)
     
  2. Metis07

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    Lol, sounds like hiring an escort. Nothing to do with rewiring.
     
  3. Free your mind

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    Hahah, I didnt think of that as an escort, but yeah you could view that from that angle as well.

    I was thinking as a therapy.. Its just like..you can sometimes smoke marijuana for fun, which is sometimes even illegal, but you can take it as a therapy, which is beneficial. :)

    That would especially be helpful for treating PA.
     
  4. Metis07

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    I see more harm in this than help. I used pmo as a coping mechanism for anxiety, depression and fears, so I need to face all these negative emotions and find some healthy ways to deal with them (by myself (or with some use of professional help) not by going to some women’s club, lol) - that is my rewiring process.
    I see Nofap forum as a therapy club (from one point of view), so if create smth it can be just a group therapy with a psychologist for PA (so like Nofap forum but in reality).
     
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  5. Metis07

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    Same thing for loneliness, you need to cope with it in a healthy way. Accept it and be comfortable with yourself all alone, even accept the possibility that you can be all alone your whole life. Then start moving from this zero-point, but don’t be afraid to be forced back to it.
     
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  6. Free your mind

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    Yes, ok, youre right in many points.
    Im not too serious aboit that idea, just thinking out loud
    Of course it wouldnt help for all issues caused by or together with pmo addictions. Especially for severe cases.
    But it would be certainly helpful for mild cases of PA and PIED, Im convinced.
     
  7. MuscularSherlockHolmes

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    Frankly I haven't heard something this stupid in a while.
     
  8. Metis07

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    I think I understand the op idea it’s like rewiring from pixels to real world women, but there is a big but;)
     
  9. lolos

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    Why don't you actually go out and talk to chicks.
     
  10. p1n1983

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    Bad way to go dude! at most this woman community can only give you time to talk and bond with a female human being just as friends.
    If you want more than that go out and talk to real woman.
     
  11. FellatiousD

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    Government-appointed sex slaves when?

    ^ That was a joke, mods.

    Threads like this are why there is a females-only section. I honestly feel bad that they have to read insensitive stuff like this.

    You know what, I might as well go on a rant. No, this would not help many guys. The "reward" of NoFap is that you get to enjoy a life of discipline and meet your goals, and stop being a slave to your addiction. You were right on the money when you said that you can't think of a female community that would benefit from this. The thought that women should be assigned to you like some kind of reward makes me thing you view them as playthings for you. Furthermore, being rewarded with something sexual for an ABSTINENCE PROGRAM is the definition of irony. Yeah, definitely too
     
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  12. Purity Power

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    Sexual purity is the only way.
     
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  13. CaptainFranklin

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    let me second this as the most obvious solution to the issue presented here.
     
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  14. Free your mind

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    Dont you think thats a bit too harsh for some light-hearted topic/idea/thinking?

    We all have some problems related to the addiction to something unnatural.
    Of course that the abstinence is the only possible solution.
    Just, nofap in its core is the idea of getting rid of the porn addiction and help getting used to natural, healthy behaviour.
    The thing called reboot I see as a combination of 2 phases: abstinence and rewire.
    Abstinence is used to decrease the inclination to the porn (unnatural) and takes a certain amount of time, while rewire helps us getting used to and regaining attraction towards women (natural). Therefore, I think it would be wrong to say its only the abstinence program.
    Next, I wasnt thinking of it as "sexual reward" for reaching some goal, it was mentioned like because of the reason statet above - probably such thing wouldnt be helpful until the first phase (abstinence) is completely sucessfuly finished.

    Some men struggle with the rewire because of lack of women in their life (for whatever the reason is). It is even possible that rebooting for such guys takes longer that it should because of that.
    I was thinking that in such cases it would be interesting idea.

    Wow..I didnt think it would lead to the discussion like this
     
  15. CaptainFranklin

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    I think you are right here. If someone does not talk to any women and has no experience trying to get companionship, PMOs all day, and then suddenly stops, there will be a huge hole and tons of boredom. Maybe more importantly than this, because the person could be lonely and unhappy, this increases the frequency of lonely/unhappy-related PMO excuses that will trick them. It is not even clear to me that it is possible (outside of locking yourself in a cabin on a mountain) to consistently abstain when having big life problems.
     
  16. Depressed&Out

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    Sex therapist do exist. (Yes, the type that get psychical)

    If they were existed in the UK, I would go to one.
     
  17. Depressed&Out

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    There was one who did a TedTalk, forgot her name.

    She seemed nice.
     
  18. Protagonist

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    I am not sure if such a therapy would be beneficial in the least.
    But if you're serious about it, why don't you get a girlfriend instead.
     
  19. Free your mind

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    Absolutely. And one more important thing. After a while, people tend to "test" do they have a working dick or not. By doing so, many relapses happen. Furthermore, knowing that you have a working dick with a real women and youre able to fulfill her desires is a huge confidence booster. Which is so important in a reboot process as well as getting people interested in you.

    Really? So its not my original idea..lol
    Interesting really.

    Well, I wasnt talking directly about myself. I have slightly different issues (trying to make a relationship work). But maybe in some time I will be in that boat lol
     
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  20. Metis07

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    It’s not so bad your idea, but I think people should do it (rewiring with real women) the hard way - go out and get rejected :D and probably you will find someone special for you (friends/girlfriends/wife).

    Such ‘club’ is a comfort zone, fear of rejection and failure is an enormous obstacle in almost every persons live, so the best way is to go out of comfort zone and try to beat this fear
     

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