Here I am at 400 days and still facing the trial of PMO. My wife is leaving town today until Tuesday. I’m not good at being alone. In the past, it has a been a disaster when she’s away. Binge time! That’s not what I want anymore, so I’d appreciate any prayers, thoughts, or encouraging words to stay the course. How do you all handle alone times?
I found a real hard patch right where you are now. Hang on in there, it gets easier. You can pull through. Surround yourself with positive things that feel creative and civilised. Read a book at bed-time, go out with friends or alone for a run. Clean the house. Anything to keep your mind focussed away from p-subs and porn. If you find yourself caving come here instead and write again about how you are feeling. Good luck
I have lots of work to get done, but often PMO has been an avoidance hehavior that feeds into my procrastination.
Me too. I was hoping that giving up porn would cure my procrastination but it hasn't at all. If you work out how to beat that one - let me know!
I am in the same boat as the rest of you when it comes to procrastination, and the PMO certainly didn’t help there. @Healed! as for your upcoming test, you have a tool available to you: Awareness. You know your patterns, and your habits. Now that the fog has lifted you can look back and recognize them. I would suggest compiling an inventory all of those patterns, then for each one writing down why they happen, but more importantly write down how you can overcome them or some corrective action you can take. Once you recognize yourself getting towards one this patterns, pull out your list, and put it into practice. Short of that, take the time to meditate or pray when temptations or urges strike, surrender it and give it over to your high power. Together you have the power to overcome this time.
I have found that on the days when my wife has been out of town that hanging out with friends helps me a lot. Even if it is for a short period of time, just being with other people can keep the urges at bay.
I would add an extra 12 step mtgs, If you do those. Sort of a higher dive into recovery? NF4Ls excellent ideas. Do you have recovery things that bring comfort? One friend went on a several day group bike ride. Do some service for the less fortunate? Post here. Good question to post and Get us all feed back.
