I have finally found the Cure!!!

well...if you don't give a damn about the ten thousand other benefits that you get by not ejaculating and avoiding orgasms, be my guest

 

Care to share, say, the top ten? For the benefit of someone like yours truly, less educated in such matters...

 

I think that you will experience the benefits if you just stay away from porn and masturbation for good..

 

Congratulations on avoiding porn! Limiting sexual activity to real person interactions is the primary purpose of NoFap. It's great that this strategy is working for you. I wouldn't use the word cure though. Keep in mind that there are many people in relationships having regular sex and struggling with porn addiction. Also some people may not be able to have sex regularly for various reasons. They must use other strategies to avoid porn. Keep up the good work but don't let your guard down.

 

... well there are a lot of people who believe sex itself can be an addiction too. Of course it depends on your goal.

Suppose you're a single person and you only have sex with people who are fine with the lifestyle since, according to your OP you need it 2-3 times a week, and all those people are clear on that and consenting adults. I don't know, can you do that indefinitely? Will you run out of people? Is there always someone available so you can have it 2-3 times a week?

 

Your theory assumes that the cause of porn addiction is unsatisfying sex or lack of it. This is not true. Addiction is a means of numbing emotional pain. Treating addiction requires self awareness and dealing with emotional issues. Sex addiction is complicated because sexual desire is natural and healthy. To answer your question a married PA needs to treat the addiction by staying sober and dealing with the underlying issues. Many PAs use PMO multiple times per day and often watch extreme genres of P. It's unfair and impractical to expect a partner to replace the addictive behavior and ultimately ineffective to treat the addiction. That being said managing normal sexual desire with regular sex is healthy and logical.

 

Is this an fwb situation?

 

I think you should stay away from all sexual activities for a while until you recover from years of porn use. Let your mind be clear first.

 

Congrats, I am already starting to think this way, all I want is REAL sex, and not interested in porn, and I'm only 5 days in! Once I finish my hard mode for 90 days, I couldn't care less if I got actual SEX consistently. that means great, it worked (in my situation).

 

Well if you dont want to think any further than that thats your business, its probably not as easy to get addicted to sex than pmo but it does happen. The obvious question to me is if you then become addicted to sex then you've just replaced one addiction with another, plenty of people are in recovery for sex addiction.

The point about not getting it is it doesnt always work, you can go look for a girl but how is that different from looking for drugs on the street? Or if it works for you it may not work for everyone. Its up to you and it doesnt sound like you're interested in anybodys opinion but if you say 'cure' in a community like this you can't expect nobody to question it.

 

Yep i would like to know it too

 

It's only an "addiction" if it gets in the way of life. If you can't focus on work, family, etc because all you can think about and dwell on is sex then it is bad. If you're addicted to the point you don't care where you get it from, prostitute, homeless person, whatever.. then it's a negative addiction. But if you just want to bang your wife/gf/bf all the time, then that's perfectly healthy IMHO.

 

Oh my oh my the naivety is great with this one. It's so cute. I see you have fell for a classic blunder, first never get into a land war with Asia, second you presume you can control a woman. The porn runs deep in you son. Women aren't objects, making her spice things up for your sexual gratification and 2-3 day schedule is selfish and insensitive. You will never keep a real woman for any amount of time with that attitude unless you own her, and slavery is illegal & dead.

So your cure is to have women fullfil you regularly, yet not commit to them in any legal or financial obligatory way. Whats in it for them? How do they feel safe? REAL women are not men's toys. That is flawed thinking.

And since you're not married you can't really speak for why people marry. If you really want to study your theory, go read up on the 30-40+ journals and see how difficult this journey is for married men.

Addiction to PMO is completely independent of relationships. No one made you become addicted, no body will fix your problems except yourself. Please stop objectifying women, that mindset is what made porn a product to begin with.

Now put on your big boy pants and do the hard work. I know you can do it!