Hello guys , does anybody knows if i can make this post apearing like "favorite" or something so i don't have to check my alerts to find it?
Go up in the menu bar to "Watched threads". Does anybody know if Im in? I don´t want to pry if I´m not.
Well who decides who is in and who is out? @artifact started an he set the rules, but I don´t know how frequent are his visits. Maybe some of the guys with more experience can give some ideas on how to start?
Hows everyone doing? I'm in day 3. Feeling a little anxious but nothing too outstanding. I usually fap when I'm super stressed or anxious. My primary reason foe doing this is to avoid ED with my girlfriend. I'm hoping this weeks abstinence will make for a good weekend between the two of us. Wish me luck!
Hi Heretogrow. Anyone can be in who wants to be in (meaning listed in the member ranking / leaderboard) as long as they follow the rules in my original post above, which are very simple. Members must turn their counters on, and must check in at least once a month. I am also going to limit membership to only those with no PM/PMO as their goal. I am open to suggestions, of course. You have joined this group by commenting on this post, so good luck. I am working crazy long hours at work, so I will not be able to update the member ranking every day, but will try to do so at least twice a week.
Welcome Heretogrow, and sorry about the delay in adding new members. After work slows down in a couple of weeks I'll be able to stay more on top of things.
jxerxes, I have noticed that you have no P as your goal your counter. I appreciate your enthusiasm in this group but I can't include you in our member ranking unless you can commit to no masturbation and change your counter goal to no PM or no PMO. No P is a different kind of challenge and gives you a possible unfair advantage over the other members.
Thank you @artifact I wanted to know for sure because I´m trying to have everything need and organize, including the groups I´m in, the threads I follow and the relationships I build. I have found that porn was a patch, in my life when I saw that I wasn´t doing things right, porn and all is solve!, so organizations has been key to my process. I hope this amount of work its good for you. Ok. I will introduce myself. And maybe you could do the same. My name is Hector. I´m 35. I didn´t use my real name because I liked the avatar thing... I was born in Boston, but raised all over south america. I live in a very small, secluded town on the beach, Im writer and make my living working mostly with wood and gardening, doing manual labor. I´ve been without alcohol or drugs for almost 2 years now, but once I got clean from those substances I could see that porn was really my big problem, and the getting drunk and high was a symptom of low self steam. I have messed up several good relationships because of porn, I think because I was living in fantasy lala land and not paying attention to real life, and over using, EVERY F DAY, that scape valve... I have faith. I have been trying to quit for almost a year, going in a week two week streaks and then falling again, but I didn´t know about nofap, I was doing it just because I could recognize it as a sober man that porn was affecting me very negatively. Ok. Hope we can help each other, have fun (why not), and really grow. Abrazos!
@Heretogrow, thanks for sharing that and good luck. I will tell some of my own story soon when I have time.
14 days today for me and feeling good. Had some tempting thoughts and weird dreams last night but I stayed on course. Looks like everyone is making good progress. Good work, guys!
Yes. Today I saw my counter and felt pretty good. I´m waiting that famous flatline though... I want to experience life without a sexual drive, because I honestly don´t remember it if I ever felt it. I´m noticing that my urges and thoughts around women have change. In another group I just commented: can you imagine if alcohol and other drugs were free... One of the things I notice when I stopped drinking was my wallet!!!! that was a big incentive. This is hard to battle.
I'd like to join. Acted out tonight again.....I really could use the encouragement and vice/versa. I hope everyone is doing well.
I just changed it now. The site said it might not update right away. However, I believe today should be about a week of noPMO. I have been having sex with my girlfriend and it has become better! I've encountered my greatest temptation, today thus far. I did well! It was super tempting to fap but having to report to this forum was such a major deterent! I am excited. I remembered all the benefits of my 83 day streak and I am looking forward to all those benefits again!