People are naturally attracted to others of a similar appearance to themselves, particularly a facial resemblance. On the flip side, people are less attracted to those whom they know too well. As the saying goes, "familiarity breeds contempt." Put those two facts together and you have the answer to why you would NOT be attracted to your sibling, who might look even more like you, and yet you would be attracted to your cousin. Your cousin is more "novel." Since you don't know your cousin well, there is still a level of intrigue. Not only is there a family resemblance, but also your tastes and interests may be quite similar, having similar backgrounds. Many people, for this reason, can be attracted to cousins. But a physical attraction does not mean a physical relationship should follow. There will be others far more appropriate for you. It's best to dismiss stray thoughts and attractions like these before letting your mind settle long upon them. Focus on a better, brighter future.
Attraction is not a choice. When you like someone, you just like them. You don't get to choose who you get attracted to. Your only call in the matter is if you are going to do something about it.
For me twas bcuz he looked interesting back then, like i had other cousins but i know them too much as we're neighbors and all that i didn't think them as boys but that one, he lives far away and whenever we met we seemed to be somehow 'connected' i even asked my mom once, on what condition is it okay to marry ur cousin lol these were childhood in teenage years, he evolved and i stayed an introvert and that's how everything ended I mean now he's a complete stranger to me like i dunno how to communicate with him anymore, he must think i've turned arrogant.. We've just been disconnected somehow Sorry mayb it didn't help u much, but this post just helped me in exteriorizing that
Thanks for replying. Now i think I have found some reason not to be obsessed with the crush on my cousin. I hope the best for you!!!
Back when I was a few years out of the active military one of my cousins saw me and asked her mom “who is that handsome guy”?! All my aunts started laughing because they told her that’s your cousin! My one cousin is a good looking lady but I don’t need to go there.
the most extreme sexual attraction that i have yet felt is to my maternal cousin(our mothers are sisters) my father wanted me to marry my cousin but not my maternal one but his niece ,the daughter of his brother but i am not attracted to her and she is very pretty thats what all say but our society is patriarchal and muslim so my father dont let me be close to my maternal cousins because he doesnt like my mothers side family and they (my cousins) are centre of some of my wildest dreams and many of them said they like me but we are muslims and its considered a good thing here to marry cousins.