Glad to be back and part of this. The last few years have been quite difficult for me. I'll explain later, hopefully tomorrow, but I feel this coming phase of my life is going to be quite emotional and positive. Difficult too of course. Now that I've disclosed this to my wife, things will never be the same. I'll be starting individual therapy and couples therapy soon. She's amazing. There is also a podcast I'd like to tell you guys about. It's called PBSE (Porn, Betrayal, Sex, and the Experts) I've listened to a few episodes so far and there is definitely some insight. The two hosts are therapists who have been able to beat their own sex addiction. And lastly, I've been learning meditation lately and I'm starting to feel better about it. The app I use is Calm and the program is from a guy named Jeff Warren (meditation for beginners or something along those lines - there are 30 meditations total) Have a good night
Hope everyone is good! Checking in from my work cubicle while my overseer - I call him the walking boss- has gone for a piss. Well, that’s what work time is for!
Checking in. All is good and back in the groove. Still more pull to it then usual when staying away but hey and not getting sucked into it.
Friday morning check-in. Still chasing that Sunshine, 9 more days to go. Keep fighting strong everyone, have a great weekend.
Hello all just updating, tonight urges are the highest I've experienced in a long time, like the feeling is crawling in my skin it's quite hard to channel. I think my dopamine is resetting gradually as I've noticed just the smallest of thoughts bring with it immense feelings in my brain. Any aelse experienced this? I can't seem to recall this before
Lads lads lads! Still leaving myself alone. Feeling pretty good, getting into the festive cheer and preparing for a wankless Christmas and a fapless New Year.
I don't usually like to make suggestions about spiritual stuff but if you are open to prayer I would add that to your arsenal of tools. Maybe you are already, if you are just carry on. Not trying to push anything just looking out for a brother. I hope the urges settle down. All the best.
Weekend check in. All is going well, less urges which is helpful. Feeling determined to stay clean for December and then onwards from there. Keep moving forward everyone, today is what matters, and it is always today! lol
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/359...ersexuality; Pharmacotherapy; Sexual behavior. Anyone tried this supplement, NAC? It seems to be popular with the anti aging folk but is is used to reduce cravings in various addictions. Think I’ll give it a go!
I have but for different reasons. I was recommended it by a nutritionist when I had covid. I didn't take it for very long. Let us know how it goes. Interesting.
Things are very different for me now that I've disclosed everything to my wife. It was super scary but so far she has been wonderful. She was mad as hell and felt very hurt, but we have been talking like never before. In the end this was definitely the right thing to do. I have been learning quite a bit lately. In the past, trying to build willpower was pretty much how I did it, and it was doable for a streak here and there but I was never able to truly heal. I am learning how important mindfulness is in all this. So many times, our brains just get hijacked and we're on autopilot. Mindfulness is about becoming more aware of when this happens so that you can then consciously choose to let it be. Urges always go away regardless of whether you engage in them or not. The more mindful we can be, the more our conscious and reasonable brains can be in control. Meditation was the hardest thing for me at first but it is much about developing the skill of choosing what to focus on. Noticing when your thoughts wander away, and then consciously bringing them back. I have a long way to go, but it is definitely different now that it's not a secret anymore.
