Post published by SimonL66

Hello fellow RCs, is anyone else reading or has read the book "Finally Free" by Heath Lambert? It was recommended somewhere on the NoFap forums. I'm finding it quite useful in managing my temptations and putting in place actions and ways of thinking to combat these.
He makes the point that watching porn is a very selfish and arrogant thing to do especially as an RC, which has struck a chord with me.
What I wanted to post about was the recommendation he makes to confess your addiction to your wife and partner as a way of making progress. I wondering if I should do this to my wife of 20yrs + as a way of finally committing to long term cure (I have tried NoFap for nearly 10 months now but keep relapsing after 30-40 days, currently on 3rd attempt - 14 days ) but am worried at how she will react. I think she suspects that I do PM but probably has no idea how badly and how it affects me . So in other words the gain of having her knowing that I am trying to cure the addiction might be outweighed by the damage caused by letting her know about a secret i have had all our married life (20yrs +)..
Are there any positive outcomes people can share about what happened when you shared with your partner/wife? And how exactly did you do it?