I had a 33 days streak. During that time, I realized I like a girl, let's call her Alice. I say "realized" because I only started to actually see the women around me after I started rebooting. The more I saw her the more I liked her, the more I was thinking about her, and then I was in love. I asked her out on a date, but she rejected me very politely. I asked why, and from what she said I understood that she didn't want any relationships. That broke my heart, my life got really messed up, I relapsed and returned to my regular porn use, but continued visiting this forum. I also started going to a gym back then and trying to live a healthier life, which I continue to do. I decided that despite her rejection, I will make myself a better man. Months passed, I stalked her online a bit, had been seeing her when we met with our common friends, but eventually, we went separate ways. I tried to forget about her, but that didn't work. I ended up following one of her social network profiles. I thought it was still better than stalking stealthily. (And it is!) One day I found an excuse to send her a message and after that, I was founding such excuses more and more often until we started chatting regularly for a week or so. I thought that at least we are online friends now, but I lost all hope of dating her. I thought I was in her friendzone, deep and dark. Until one day she asked me if I wanted to go drink some coffee together! Of course, I agreed. The date was great. I haven't even done/said anything stupid. I was too shy to touch her even slightly, but she was comfortable around me and touched my arms multiple times. We talked a lot about ourselves, and I've told her that I haven't had a girlfriend since I was in high school, and I think at this point she realized that I'm a virgin, but I haven't said that directly. I shared some of my secrets, told her about NoFap and my mental issues. She told me that she rejected me because she had a BF at that time, I just misunderstood her then. There's going to be a second date, and I'm pretty sure she likes me. Maybe not as much as I like her, but still. Not sure where this is going yet, but the more I know her, the more I love her. I haven't confessed yet because I don't want to scare her. But let me tell you what I've learned: Never give up! I'm so happy my feelings forced me to stay in contact with her even though we haven't had any chances to meet IRL again. (Well, there's always a chance, but it was not bigger than random.) We had no other means of contacting each other, so if I chose to forget about her, we wouldn't meet again.
Well done my man. Thanks for sharing. Sometimes you just need such inspiration. This puts a smile upon my face
Today's date was great. I asked if I could hold her hand and she said yes. Looking into her eyes feels so great.
Cute. Ya a lot of nofappers dont understand the difference between a no,not right now and rejection. I think its cuz they expect or fear failure.
@Shinsoo, I think it's really hard to distinguish when there are no other signs she likes you. I was sure she didn't hate me because we were talking like friends, but that made me think that the friendship is all I can hope for. She hasn't explained anything, so I thought she simply didn't see me as a potential romantic partner.
@TC10, so far, yes. First, I have less time to have urges. Second, when I have urges, I remember that now I have a girlfriend. Fewer excuses, more motivation.
Today was our first kiss. I was nervous, she seemed to be nervous too, but it was absolutely great. Best day of my life.
Hi @Ambrose Grant, The story continues here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/losing-virginity-in-my-early-30s-how-to-do-it.178586/ In short, we're still dating, haven't gone very far, but I'm working on it. I've screwed up a couple of times already, but it seems okay now. I have lots of insecurities which kick in frequently, so I have lots of problems keeping my shit together.
I'm "dating" a woman for the first time in 10 years so I can understand your uneasiness and what I imagine are a constant wave of "what if...?" Style thoughts. Best thing you can do is not be afraid to fuck up, not be afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing. The more comfortable you can make yourself moving forward in the relationship, the more successful it will be and the better you will feel about it, and yourself, in the process. Good luck to the both of us buddy.