Hi guys as supertrouper I come for 7day-challenge. I want to complete my biggest one: 21 days without PMO. I'm a little bit late but let me tell to you the next thing: 0/14 complete 1/14
I can understand what you are saying. I think subconsciously, this is the habit loop. A conscious effort is needed to break free from this. Alone with laptop, late night or very early morning is sure shot trigger for PMO. May I suggest a walk or jog or some exercise for 20 minutes daily. It will make you feel good and you will sleep on time and health benefits are a big plus. Another way is to have some accountability software installed .
Congrats on 12 days! Just keep going one day at a time! And don't worry about the gf bit too much. Look at it this way, what you are doing now will prepare you for a fruitful relation for when you do get a gf. the Flatline will be there for a few days and things will get back to normal after a while. I actually enjoy the Flatline's during these challenges cos then the is no stimulus for me to act upon. Dont force or try to see if you can get it up by watching P and all that, Just take it easy and and stay on track.
Yeah my main tip is to take the challenges you are committed to seriously. Like this 14 day challenge, if ever you get the urge watch porn, think of how bad you'll feel for having to fail this challenge, and the shame of resetting the counter back to zero. Another tip is to immediately come to this website if you feel the urge, tell us about your day, or something funny or interesting that happened. To me it feels great to be able to simply come here and read about other peoples success stories and think 'I want that too', or to tell people about the fact I'm here to get past my urges. We can all help eachother, people have different ways of dealing with their triggers. I think that sharing on here instead of watching porn is very powerful, and before you know it you'll be on day 17 or day 90 telling us all about how your desires have faded and you are getting your life back. With every day my willpower goes up and my desire to watch porn goes down. I know it'll really suck if I get half way through the year and ruin it in one day; watching my PMO tracking counter goes up makes me feel better and better, my short term memory has already improved massively and so has my confidence. I can now have a real conversation about real things with banging hot women without getting sweaty and weird looking, and that helps my confidence no end. I also find that my mind is becoming less cloudy, I think that's a really good metaphor for how it is. I used to have this crazy brain fog, and it's like it is being lifted and I can see everything a bit clearer. I have a much better relationship with my wife because of this and we discuss real issues, as I'm there in the moment. Maybe these effects have nothing to do with abstaining from porn and masturbation, but that doesn't matter. I tell myself that they definitely do and this further compounds my desire to never do it again. I hope that helps a bit!
