brave words brother. yes, that´s very true. a significant number of studies have been going out about what makes a "sucessful life" and all of them points that it´s perseverance, not luck or talent, that creates a great life. it has nothing to do with inner capabilities and all to do with attitude and work. Everybody can be great brother. There are no limits.
Checking in Fellowship!!! Feeling great today . i hope you too Let´s welcome our new brother: @ListenPaul The following brothers have upgraded and reach places in Middle Earth. Congratulations!!! @MarioVargas @rotten_tomato - Uruk-Hai @LuckyMan - Bree / Eriador @Samurai_God - Weathertop / Eriador A huge wave of strenght to our brother @bmcmanansmith which is facing a hard time now. Courage my brother, we´re with you!!! Checking out brave Companion!! Have a great day and a even better weekend
Day 80. I am feeling a bit unsure today. I have been mostly unsatisfied with my dating and love life up until this point. I am wondering what steps I can take in the near future to change this and feel more fulfilled. This reboot and NoFap journey are a great first step, but ultimately I would like to make progress towards a better love life.
This is indeed a Great talk ! I really enjoyed watching and listening to it ! @bob200 Thanks for posting it brother ! As for me I tried headspace before but it's not my cup of tea, I prefer silence to somebody talking-This way i am more focused on myself , more aware of my thoughts.
Brothers there is a way to counteract triggers especially when you are alone-it's the placing the pictures of holy or very revered by you people you keep in the uttermost respect in all places where you tend to relapse watching right on you. Will you do it if Jesus Christ is looking right at you? Will you do it if Buddha is watching right at you? Will you do it if your parents are present and watching right at you? Place their pictures to sanctify the vibes of your place, feel their live presence and stay away from lust and other self-destructive habits-obsessions. Look at them to stay on straight and narrow, stay away from nakedness and degenerative materials.
Day 183. Checking in. At some point you will have to face your thoughts head on, you cannot run away from them forever....well, I guess you can, but what kind of life is that? There is only so much you can do to suppress those thoughts. Keeping yourself busy does help get out of the huge spikes of fantasy, but are you going to be able to live with that same intensity each waking second? Those thoughts don't control, you do.
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Day 2 Have been really bad about posting on here, though I have been working on my recovery. I have been involved with the paid NoFap support program, and I have been involved with another Porn Recovery Group and I am making progress slowly but surely. My streaks are still only around 5-7 days, but they are consistently happening, so if I can get past that 5-7 period, and then past 15 days, I will be so much better off. It is just the first few days that I struggle with and then falling complacent when I get to around 3 weeks. I hope to get to 90+ days hard mode. Back in fall 2018, I made it 90 days no PMO, though I did MO every couple weeks or so. The goal is to get back to a place where I am avoiding P, P-subs, peeking, and MO. I have decided that every time I seek out visual stimuli whether I masturbate or just look, even for a couple minutes, I will reset. If I seek something out in a boneheaded moment, but stop before seeing anything, it will be a close call, but not a reset. If the medium loads then it is a reset, and if I see something based on some search not related to seeking out P or P-subs, then as long as I close out of it, it is not a reset. If I MO it is a reset, and obviously, if I PMO, it is a full relapse. If I look at P or P-subs for 10+ minutes, then that is a relapse as well, even without MO. I am going to be stricter with myself going forward, after having a conversation with an accountability partner and him saying that I was making excuses for why I was doing something unhealthy or why I was not to blame. I have to take responsibility, else I will never get clean. I have been feeling depressed lately, and stressed from school, and while I am not spiraling yet, I am not living my best life. I am not living a life in recovery. I am just slugging along, trying to stay afloat instead of flying. best, Mathman1994
Day 2, Pretty slow day. About to start class here soon. Planning to have a night time walk after lecture and before dinner I intend to be PMO free this weekend! Putting the intention out there! Best to you all Fellowship!
Hey brothers, Can't say much today because I have to drive a couple hours to see family today. I cold showered this morning and did some work. Next week I want to get back into exercise and a regular schedule. The streak is cool and I will be glad to be a Hobbit again, but what I really need is a whole lifestyle transformation, to grow beyond being someone who seeks solace in PMO. I know it is possible and I know what works. Time to put it into practice by changing habits, thought patterns, and my environment. What a beautiful life! Time to live it.
Day 36. The frustration still come sometimes but I always try to be conscious of it and then ask myself , Why I feel like that ? and , What can I do with that feeling ? Then that turns the frustration on productive energy
Day 3 And life is good! Went out for a run yesterday for the first time in forever, did all of the things I wanted to do, and I was even intimate with my girlfriend for the first time in a couple of weeks. We had a huge fight about porn and other things a couple of month ago and we have been going to couple consoling for two month now and I feel like things are starting to settle down into a good rhythm. On a relate note…. Any body have some good material on PE because my body is kind of betraying me. my girlfriend is really understanding now, but I would still like to know more about how to deal with PE.
Sorry to give hard talk but if this is the way you’re thinking you’re going to relapse. There is NO “sweet oblivion”. There is NOTHING sweet about it and as long as your addiction has you thinking there is, you’ve already lost. You can’t white knuckle your way through the rest of your life convinced you’re denying yourself of the awesomeness of porn. I can’t tell you how many streaks I’ve blown because my addiction convinced me I was “missing out”. It wasn’t until I truly learned to hate everything about porn and see it for the irredeemable poison that it is that I began having any true success. Granted you have 118 days under your belt so who am I to talk? I just wanted to point out that how you talk about PMO really matters, and giving it even an inch of desire in your mind is all the space it needs to invade completely. Never forget the truth that PMO doesn’t help with stress, it compounds it.