My problem, and I'm assuming that it's a problem for many people.

Ah man. The first week(s) is(are) the hardest. once you get past that you have the achievement (as a reason in itself) and things in your head start to change. After three, four weeks (I think), you are much less likely to say 'fuck it' and you're more able (less craving).

Others have said it to me on this forum (and I think it's true!) 30 day and 90 days are the key milestones for your brain staring to change. Yes, you really are trying to change your brain chemistry at this stage.

I am 15 days in so maybe I can't say, but all the evidence suggests that getting out gets easier after those milestones!

 

I think you need to change the way you think about the urges. That tension you feel is actually the solution to loneliness and depression. When I abstain from PMO and I fight through the first few days, I feel stronger and I'm more confident. I connect to people better and women are more attracted to me. I enjoy my relapses and I dont beat myself up and feel all guilty but Im starting to see that the confidence and power I feel when I abstain is worth more than the momentary pleasure I get from relapsing. Your "rock solid hard on" is an indication of how much power you have flowing through your body. You dont need to do PMO you should learn to welcome that feeling of power. After reading all of these threads about young quys who cant get it up around a real woman from PIED, I literally thank God everytime i get a hard on and Im not even joking. when we relapse we waste the energy we should be using to change our habits and cultivate healthy relationships which ends the cycle of loneliness and depression.

 

Most streaks in the first week or two are ended by an impolisive decision. Your mind will do anything to rationalize watching porn. Try to be aware of its tricks and realize it for what it is; A thought born out of craving, not a true expression of yourself.

Good luck!

 

You just gotta distract your mind, and keep yourself busy so that you wouldn't even think about urges or relapsing. I recommend you download porn filters and adult content blockers so you won't get tempted to relapse!

 

Anytime, man. By the way, your avatar profile picture is f**king hilarious LOL XD

 

You're face looks like it's gonna explode into a burst of laughter, after holding a laughter in. LOL XD

 

I've heard it's useful to channel that sexual frustration into something productive, like a hobby, or your work, or something.

otherwise, it's about keeping yourself busy and/or distracted from porn. So when you are at your PC and bored, that's when you will default to porn to fill the boredom with some "me-time". That is the moment in which you need to tell yourself "ok instead of porn, let's see what's on netflix", or "hey let's do another few levels of that videogame I started the other day"

 

By realizing and meditating on the fact that it will only make the sadness and depression worse.

 

LOL
Which comedian?

 

He looks funny as hell, LOL.