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Growing up

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by marathon_runner23, May 18, 2018.

  1. marathon_runner23

    marathon_runner23 Fapstronaut

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    Hello.
    I have been in the cycle from 12 years of age, and today at the age of 26, find myself riddled with security complexes and absurd fears. It’s become late to understand the downside of this vicious cycle and I really need urgent help. I wish to get accountability partners and Nofap counters and all that there is to help me restrain myself and .. grow up.
     
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  2. p3rs0nal

    p3rs0nal Fapstronaut

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    Welcome,

    You made the right choice joining. You'll see there are many people having the same issue. I would suggest to set a target and start writing a journal either here or in a book. I also recommend that you should participate on challenges at the challenge thread. Fighting this problem together is the most effective way to leave this cycle.

    Good luck
     
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  3. marathon_runner23

    marathon_runner23 Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for your support... looking forward to quit it once and for all
     
  4. Welcome! Like what @p3rs0nal said, we recovery in community. You can do it. If I can, you can. I am no one special. You will have to work really hard and be accountable and completely honest. You can do it. Even if you stumble along the way, do not despair. You will get there.

    Peace to you,
    -Quinn
     
  5. marathon_runner23

    marathon_runner23 Fapstronaut

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    This is what I too desire. To be able to do it and get to the 90 day mark. It will be an immense psychological boost for me. You guys are angels. Please be with me. I can’t thank you ppl enough
     
  6. Hi. Welcome to forum!

    Make sure you crate a personal journal thread in Reboot Logs section and blog there on a regular basis. As well as just generally be active participant in various forum discussions. I recommend this to everybody new here because it's the major thing that helped me when I was first starting. Just lurking on forums, reading and learning is great. But it usually is so much more powerful to engage. It helps to keep us motivated and accountable when we are active part of community. And keeps this in front of our minds so we don't forget about importance of it and slip away in our old habits. Sharing is also therapeutic. This is a major reason why AA meetings work so good. But that was developed before internet era. These days we can get most of the same benefits online through communities like this. So don't underestimate the power of active participation.

    I would also like to suggest you to look into mindfulness meditation. It has helped me personally tremendously to learn how to deal with urges. It takes a while to get good at it and notice results, so you need to be consistent with it, but once you do it's very powerful. It has been used by sages for thousands of years to deal with various issues of the mind. And in recent decades the science is also catching up to what ancient sages have know for centuries. Meditation these days are widely used as very effective tool by psychologists for treating addiction and by neurologists for supporting recovery of the brain. It is a great exercise for the brain the same way as jogging is great exercise for the body. Check out this Ted talk, it gives a good idea of what's it about when it comes to philosophy. As far as practical side of it there is this awesome smartphone app called Headspace for guided meditations to get you started.

    Wish you lot's of strength and success in your reboot journey!
     

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