What motivates you???

At 25, myself, I don't want to look back on my entire 20s as littered with periods of heavy masturbation; think of all the times I could have had energy and didn't because I'd been fapping away. If I am still here when I am 30 I really don't know what I'll do.

My pornographic interests have changed in the last few years and I have found myself becoming a little obsessive over the main fetish I had. I lost interest in sex and started to see it as a chore. I want to enjoy sex with real women again. Why should I be fapping to enhanced pixels when I can and will fuck like a man when I get to it.

Lastly, I have join the gym (I could not recommend this enough for almost anyone, particularly in Winter!). My body has improved already even only after a month. I am convinced that by the Summer without fapping I will be in top condition- I'll feel great and look great. Porn is a distraction, a waste of time and most of all it contributes vastly to a swirl of depression and general hermit behaviour.

Dude, no-one needs this. We can't be a slave to a vastly unnatural hyperbolic version of the Coolidge effect - it is powerful and will consume us, but you are better than that. We don't want to be sitting back in our rocking chairs thinking we spent our young lives in a darkened room in front of a screen because we couldn't overcome a simple biological fault. I'd just sound like a bitter old git, and I've seen plenty of those around! They inspire me in their own way!

 

Porn has all but destroyed my relationship with my Creator and my wife. I desperately want that back. This is my main motivation. Porn does nothing but steal from us. It takes away your ability to truly connect with someone. It takes away the joy you found in every day activities. It takes away your energy and motivation. Knowing these things is what's keeping me going.

 

I'm doing it to help with my depression / anxiety issues. I also want to be a real man and a good dad to my kids. All the other benefits that come along with these are just bonuses to me!

 

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I am doing it just to be a more energetic and vibrant personality. Additionally, once I was out of the fog, then only realized that I was in the fog. I don't wanna drown under the blanket of that fog. And a big thanks to NOFAP community for taking me out of the fog. You have shown me the path, now it's up to me to make the choices.

Good luck to everyone who is trying to rip apart the shackles of PMO and shooting for a better person!

 

Because everyone knows its bad for us, so we give best effort to shake it off. Some guys relapse too much but make it in the end and some just do it with longer streaks and less relapses. At the end of the day you have to remember that you should never give up even if you relapse every second day!

 

I'm doing this because my brain is foggy and unworkable. I believe in my heart that I'm an amazing guy that women actually love, but I can't move with my life because I can't function properly. I'm already 32 and I can't imagine thinking that I could live like this any longer.

 

Same as all of you. I've wasted so much of my life to this. All those wasted days and hours. And I know I feel better without it. I feel more confident, happier, more productive, less ashamed, and less foggy.

 

Squeaky cleanliness of Soul motivates me.

Heaven too,

~Squeaky Soul

 

I do it for myself. I do it because I'm sick of my attitude towards life and I want to change that.
What motivates to go on during NoFap is the fact that I DO NOT NEED TO FAP IN ORDER TO HAVE THE LIFE THAT I ALWAYS IMAGINED FOR MYSELF. I KNOW AND I REALIZE THAT PMO IS NOT HELPING ME BUT DESTROYING ME INSTEAD!!!
MY GOAL IS NOT SHORT-TERM PLEASURES BUT LONG-TERM SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS.
AND I WILL NOT STOP UNTIL I GET THERE!!!

 

life would be so much better if porn wasnt so toxic and disruptive in our lives.The truth is it is first my addiction was to MO and now that I have found porn.It has been a constant struggle to get clean.I am doing this because I want to take control of my life,to be the man that I always thought,I could be.

 

Because I lack motivation, feel depressed / worthless, unclean, and spiritually deprived when fapping. I want a healthy and vibrant sex life with a real woman and a healthy marriage one day.

It's amazing: when I abstain it's so much easier to interact with women. I've gone months without a single date and this week I've already had dates with two great chicks... seeing one of them again tomorrow and I'm so excited!

 

To connect with my humanity, and empathy again, as well as getting stronger to be there for the people I love. Another thing is I am determined to reach my full potential as a human being!

 

ive told some of my close mates about my challenge they told me "your crazy man because itll be impossible for us" , but they supported me anyway, i admit that sometimes it was very struggling resist to the temptation, but everytime i was nearly to M i was thinking about all those mates, and i wouldnt disappoint them and myself so today im here and 2morrow ill finish my challenge

 

For me, it will hopefully ease my anxiety, depression and increase my motivation to get back into my hobbies. This stuff has been in control of my life for far too long.

 

Doing it for me, to better me so that I can be a better husband and father.

More importantly I am doing it to try and get back control. I feel like if I can accomplish this then maybe just maybe I can start checking off the other goals on my list.

 

56 days or 8 weeks is a very good effort

Yet, it is not clear to me how you expect to benefit from not masturbating. Your previous posts reveal that you have been "testing" yourself by watching porn sometimes (without masturbating). So, what happens next? Will you return to porn and masturbation as before? 58 days is an unusual number to have as a goal. Even if you stopped all porn, all edging and all masturbation, 58 days is not long enough to rewire the pathways in your brain so you are free from addiction. Unless you increase your goal and stop watching porn, you will throw away any benefit you have had so far. Please reply and let me know what you intend to do when you reach this goal of 58 days. Best wishes, IGY

 

Naw man there is no disgust and shame when it comes to this.
The entire process is about learning to love and improve yourself based off that love. It is self acceptance through understanding that PMO is just not good for you. For many of us it was simply a coping mechanism. In a way we needed it in the past, but understand that there are better and healthier alternatives now that we are aware of the dangers.
You can go down the line of relying on others for support. It works for some. Not for me personally.

For me it comes down to this quote: "Someone once told me the definition of Hell: The last day you have on Earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become".

I am doing nofap because I simply want to see what I am capable of. In all walks of life. And nofap is a crucial but small part of it. I hope that other people will find this perspective soon. IMHO you cant "beat" this thing unless you stop thinking and obsessing about it. Unfortunately, if used in the wrong way, this forum can become obsessional.

Ignore the whole hate and shame thing. If you fap it is because you found it as a coping mechanism. Exercise instead, not to look attractive but to see what your body is capable of. Do the same with your mind. Advance and change, look forward.