Advice from 365+ members

I am very interested in the opinions of the 365+ guys as well.

I am particularly interested to hear from guys who have gone a year or more without ejaculating. Since I am trying to curtail ejaculation entirely, your insights would be particularly valuable.

Private message is ok, too. So, please, any of you who have gone a year + without ejaculating, I'd be grateful to hear from you.

 

Where can I find your story bro? I wanna read it.

 

I kind of not thinking too much about porn.. since I always busy with my work during the day.. Only at night usually i watched porn.. so instead of porn . I just watched movies. Or just chilling with my wife .

 

I relate to this. Same type thoughts I go through. It's crazy how similar the addiction is for everyone.

 

I'm on day 665. I blocked P from my devices, and have not touched myself because of pure willpower. I would say what helped me was a hobby. I found a hobby that I really enjoyed (working on my cars and model cars) and limiting my time on social media and only have 1 which is just Instagram. I also try to make myself more occupied with chores as well as enjoying walking with my four legged friend 4 miles each day. Working out also helped me and increased my confidence. Also, I would not get involved with negative banter that you find on the internet, and if you want to vent just type it all out and read the final product. When I do this I usually just erase the words and focus my energy on something else. I would say the only thing I do struggle with still is loneliness since I lost many friends ever since the start of my journey and would rather have real friends. However my goal for 2019 is to hang out with my friends more with fun activities! My number one advice is to keep on going and do not stop if you think you failed, since most people try to find an excuse to binge PMO because of one uncertain mistake they made. I would just want to wish everyone who is on the journey luck and to kick the addiction's ass!

 

Love this. Especially “the first step leads to the last step,” and “I know that I wouldn’t be able to stop myself at that point. I have to stop myself now.” Any semblance of long-term success (was sober for two years at one point, and more recently for over 5 months) that I have had has been based on “zero tolerance.” If I give an inch, porn takes a yard and I ultimately end up in a full relapse. Even if it started with a “harmless google search.”

 

I'm pretty sure I've sometimes gone few months without ejaculating, unless it's possible to not wake up during the ejaculation part of a wet dream and not even have a memory of the dream (and even then one would presumably notice some wetness in the clothes after waking up). Not sure if age has anything to do with it. Probably wouldn't have happened in my 20s or prior to that.

 

I felt the same and so I started a thread trying to gather together links to all the people on enormous streaks. I'm not sure it'll help as you still have to hunt around for their posts, but here you go: Where are all the big boys? (N.B. Let me know if there are any I should add to the list.)

It is worth also noting this though:

 

I'm nervous about saying I am past it, though day-to-day it has no hold any more.

 

Wow! Congrats on hitting the one year mark!

I find your citing of Luke 9:23 particularly apt. ......let him deny himself......That is what fasting is all about.

I have to really keep this in mind. Thanks for an inspiring post today.