First thing first, the fact you are on this journey and you are honest is progress. So have that settled in that you will always be honest about relapses and you need not fear judgement. But i know how hard it is to get yourself back on track. Y My last relapse, i enjoyed it even though it was bad, and i felt myself wanting more earlt in the morning after i woke up. I felt i could handle it but sadly i fell again. Guilt was a major player. As soon as i was done, i called my accountability partner and told him everything. He showed no judgement and reminded me that God loves me and He has forgiven me. I felt lighter and motivated. Maybe you need to get an accountability partner. Someone you can trust and is mature enough to handle such information and give you wise counsel. Confessing it will make you feel better. Its not a cure but its a step further in taking away the shame.
Doing 90 days challenge is good . But you should be more focused on short term goals. You need to motivate yourself everyday and each day without PMO is a victory. Think of that, it'll really motivate you.
Day 10 now! 11 days to go! No more relapse this time. No more. I'm playing chess in my free time now. I help me to focus and avoid thinking about porn. You should also try it.
Hey! relax bro...don't think negative things for now. We all feel bad when we relapsed. but we are doing the right thing. We are trying to fix the circuit in our brain which was fucked up by porn. So...don't be discouraged. We have to try again and again. Our streak will be longer and longer over time. It is not a failure bro. Keep fighting!
Welcome to 21 days challenge. I've been stuck in this for more than 1 month. Haha. Keep fighting and let's support one another.
Thank you so much man! I really appreciate the support, and I love your tips! Going to try and passing this weekend, so far haven't relapsed!
Day 1. Had a great workspace conversation with my colleagues. Enjoyed chatting with my friends after a long time. This made my day. Good luck all!
Day 5/21 I face a lot of urges to PMO. I keep denying them, knowing that there are so many advantages of abstaining from PMO, while the only 'advantage' of doing it is a few minutes/seconds of 'pleasure', which is really not worth it.