Thanks Thanks a ton for sharing the post William, I fear that I won't become the person I was 15 years ago..this has kept me going on.. losing and winning tiny battles..
I appreciate the input... I am not new to pain and anxiety... this is my second attempt at the hard 90... my first attempt I did a lot of reading on here as well as other web sites... But attempted to keep my secret to myself and didn't have the help and support of others... I made it 65 days... I felt in control... it felt great... but I encountered those days you spoke of where my brain was fighting to get what it wanted it was unbelievably hard... I managed to push through and experienced the dead effect... but I let my brain convince me (when I was that far) that just a peek at what I didn't consider porn would be okay... as others have said and learned... Its the little step off the path that causes relapse. I am not starting over... I'm just continuing the journey... (Just the same as when you are climbing steep steps, if you trip and slip down a couple of steps... It doesn't erase the progress you have already made... you don't have to start at the bottom again... you pick yourself up and you move on...) I'm smarter... more experienced... and more determined than ever to be free! thank you for your insight and your experience, your inspirational example, and the hard reality of the hurdles we will face...
Thanks William for your message. Looking back on all these posts, it's incredible to think how many people you've helped on the way to NoFap in the last two years. I never thought porn addiction was a real thing, but now I understand it's just like any other substance abuse - just that we get the dopamine hit from hitting a stick rather than injecting it. I'm fully confident that I can get through the 90 days. I hate habitual porn watching, it doesn't excite me anymore, and most importantly I want to get back to great sex with my girlfriend again
Good Job to you guys and to everyone who is undertaking this. It is hard sometimes, and you'll slip.... just keep going no matter what. Get right back on every time.
Thanks for reinforceing my determination.I am going to use your suggestion to better prepare my self.There are moments when you can't avoid same trigers,because that would be like running from your shadow.We all went to porn when we were emotionaly hurt or frustrated and it molded our personality.But if you are prepared for it and as time passes by ,it will get easier and you can get back to the real you.Thank you for the remainder.
Yes. I was hooked for awhile on substitutes and considered them fair game because they were on YouTube, not a porn site. But if I am honest about it and honest with myself, the 100% truth is that if it's something I am MOing to, then it's a substitute. Great post, William. Thanks for it. Jeff
William, Thanks for the message and link to this thread. I am going cold turkey and want to do the hard 90. You asked if I am addicted and yes I am. I have been addicted to some form of stimulation for 20 years or more. The most recent episode last week confirmed for me I need to quit. It got to the point where PMO, was getting harder to come by, always looking for something different to make it work. I realized that I was in search of something that wasn't going to satisfy the real me. Now I have to find that person though, I have been addicted so long that I don't know if I even know the real me. Thanks for the post and help. I will try to post daily with updates on my thread.
Great thread, coming from a newbie who has been lurking here and on YBOP for a few weeks, I feel this sums up everything quite well. It makes me feel equipped to continue the noFap journey. First goal is 90 hardmode, today is day 7 so yeah, a long road ahead... but I am up for the challenge
Hi, guys This thread is really an execelent way to get started. It has inspired me to go through the hard 90 mode. I don't know how i gonna make it, but there's no easy path to get rid of porn. It's a complete and sudden withdrawal process. No excuses. Period.
Joined NoFap today as a much needed step to Love my wife without Porn hiding in the shadows. I'm 32 with kids. I feel like a complete, heartless, perverted asshole. Looking for accountability and strength. I'm really struggling with myself and how I can account for the selfishness. I need to own my actions.
Cool. Quite helpful post.....Thanks William.. Let's face the withdrawal with a katana sword and chop it down.....I guess my biggest problem would be to control myself when I am alone or in bed...... But if you all can do it... I am sure I will be able to abstain from it for atleast 30 days and then maybe longer...... Oh dear lord. Jesus!! Help me conquer this nofap 30 days challenge.. Peace..
I agree with you I am an addict and I am broken. I have tried numerous ways to stop, but never found my solution I know from the help of this community I will overcome my addiction already took the necessary steps to block pornography from my computer.
Thanks man that Thread is awesome. I gonna go with the 90 days hard(divided intro 3x30days ). Again thx for the PM i really think i can do it
I really liked that! Thank you for your concern. So I was looking for powerful and knowledgeable threads yesterday, and I came across your post. The video was amazing, it made me understand why relapses happened to me. Even though there has been a time where I went without PMO almost 10 months, the fact that I was ignorant made me relapse.
Von Newroq. If you can quit PMO, you will never be broken under torture. If you can quit PMO, torture become easy. I don't think you will ever be broken. Keep going. Porn is not an option. Thanks for all the kind posts. Billy the Kid.