Feeling defeated.....

Brother sometimes it takes longer than 90 days. Did you ever hit the flatline during your attempted recovery? Have you stayed away from porn since master bating?

For me working out, eating right, sleeping right, and taking cold showers were huge in my recovery. Are you doing those things as well?

Another area of concern was jacking off to your ex. It might have interacted with the same PMO pathways somehow. If it was raunchy fantasy I wouldn’t recommend that.

 

Could you quit PMO to save your life?

I’m going to lay some truths and they are going to hurt but you need to hear it.

First of all god doesn’t give a flying fuck about your sex life. Sorry but that’s a sorry ass attitude you have right there.

Your junk isn’t working properly because you have habitually been using porn. You know this. You are probably turned on by your ex because it’s something you can’t have and she somehow got wired into your PMO problem.

The flatline is a rite of passage of healing. Depending on how many years you PMO, how often you PMO, what type of content you PMO to and other life style habits it will take longer or shorter to get past your PMO addiction. You will heal with patience and willpower.

Nofap isn’t for everyone. Some people are just losers at life and need porn. Others can get back up and fight the urge to PMO and conquer this disease. It’s your choice. I don’t care what you do.

But if you really want to be successful in life you will quit. If you really want that promotion, that hot wife, and to look and feel like never before you will quit PMO and never go back to that nasty shit.

With the instant streaming of video PMO we have no idea how it will affect long term addicts 40 years from now. Do you really want to find be one of those people ? There have been studies out their showing similarities between porn addict brains and heroin addict brains. (Yeah like heroin the most addicting drug on the planet.)

Youre in the game of life and you need to start treating your mind body soul with respect. Working out, eating right, sleeping right and taking cold showers... WEST.

Could you quit PMO to save your life?

 

Fucking-a righteous!
This dis-ease is and will have increasingly devastating effects on both the user and the people around that person, in ways we can’t even fathom. Imagine an entire generation, tens of millions, unable to pair-mate and create a stable loving home because their minds have been so warped by high speed internet porn that they don’t know how to commit or feel genuine love any longer. Real love, not sexual selfishness but “I would go to fucking hell and back with you”-love. It will change the very face of society, it already is.

We will be the exceptional exception. Watch.
Those who rise above porn will be the top 2% of men & women and the gifts of life with come almost effortlessly, because of 1 thing. Mastery over sexual expression. Not suppression! Mastery.

 

Yes. Here is my relatively recent success story post.

https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/day-90-pied-cured-i-look-like-the-rock-now.243815/

A little bit more about my experience specifically not being able to have sex... I couldn’t get it up on my birthday because of the flatline. At one point I didn’t have an erection for a month. I seriously considered suicide. My withdrawal symptoms came on strong once while in church.

 

Only during the flatline period of my recovery was I completely unable to have sex. Pre nofap I had to use my imagination to get it up in order to have sex but I could still have sex. Now I naturally get erections from just feeling.

Interestingly enough I do think you had something similar happen to both of us during our recovery process.

On my day 8 of recovery I had sex and then my flatline immediately began and I lost all my libido. You had sex after abstaining for a month and lost your libido and I believe your flatline began.

The brain works in mysterious ways to get you to go back to PMO. Unfortunately In your situation you fell for the mind trick and went back to Porn.

 

Ive experienced ED 1 time with my gf and i freaked out and contacted my sex therapist. Basically what he told me was that i was too in my own head. I also had been watching porn porn porn that week and yada yada, but he basically said its the masturbation, not the porn. But something you can try is to just eat her out. Dont even focus on your erection. Dont even plan to get off from it. Just focus on her. Try that a few times. And then when the time comes to where you feel your ready, focus on the feeling during sex, not images or anything else that pops into your head. Just focus on the feeling and your girlfriend.

 

I’m going to have to shoot this one down brother. Your sex thearpist doesn’t know what he/she is talking about. Porn is bad for you. You shouldn’t have to perform oral in order to get an erection. Stop any variation of PMO now.

 

I usually need 5-6 months of monk mode to cure my PIED. 3 months abstinence does nothing in my case.

 

Lol - "I did eat her out". This should come with a trigger warning

 

Yeah my sex therapist knows more than anyone on this form, considering he studies it for a living and is held to a very high standard in the community.

 

Honestly, I don't think your problem is porn at this point. If it had been, you wouldn't have been so into your ex, and you would have regained function after a period of abstention. Unless I'm wrong, I don't think you're flatlining either at this point. Rather, I'm guessing that something else is going on. Perhaps you're guilty for religious reasons, perhaps you just love your ex and it doesn't seem right to you to have sex with your girlfriend. Porn works because it's impersonal. I don't know, but I think it's time to see a psychologist to get their opinion and see if you can get to the bottom of this.

 

Man there are so many people out there that have changed their life by stopping the consumption of porn that I can’t even take your response seriously. I don’t really care what you have to say because I know I healed and am doing very well for myself because of it.

 

Correct. There are many people who have. But they also do more, including exersizing and eating healthy and yada yada yada.
There are also many people who benefit from going to a sex therapist to help them not feel shame from watching porn or whatever theyre doing. Thats just a fact