The Lord of the Rings Challenge

14 days my brothers. Here´s a newsletter from JK Emezi, have a nice day

"Brother,

I've said it before and I'll say it again: if you don't TRANSFORM your life, you will always relapse. There is not "super fast", "quick", "never relapse" method to ending this behavior.
NONE.
Your life much change- preferably to a new life where it is difficult for you to view pornography and masturbate.
In your reboot, if you do not explore different ways of creating new lifestyle, the factors which led to your relapse will creep back into your life.
Lets get one last thing clear about relapses as well.
A Relapse is not an event.
It is a process.
It starts many weeks or even months before your first slip.
Today, I'll cover 7 reasons why you are likely to relapse this month.
My hope is that you'll use this knowledge to prevent a relapse.

1) Life Gets Better:
Simply put, you've been doing well for months without any serious urges to use porn, so you revert back to your former lifestyle without maintaining any of the practices which kept you off porn and masturbation in the first place.
Do you feel that you're in control?

2) Too many issues:
You have too many problems which you ignored or procrastinated on. You've decided to tackle your porn and masturbation addiction, but quickly find that your other issues keep overwhelming you.
Your relationship with your wife is falling apart, you have a drinking problem, your career is consuming your life and stressing you out, you don't know how to relate to your kids, and you are filled with guilt for all the lies you've been telling your partner.
Your problem is that you do not have access to enough resources to help identify which problems to solve first.

3) You don't take Reboot Skills Seriously:
You don't want to do what it actually take to reboot. You struggle with keeping appointments, you avoid being around people, certain places and situations.
You have no anger managements skills, no support systems and making friends is a skill you lost in college which was well over a decade ago.

4) You're playing a game of "False Rebooting":
You NEVER fully commit to rebooting. This is because you actually don't watch porn and masturbate daily or even weekly. You fall into one of two categories.
a) The man who only binge watches porn a few times a year. But when you do, you have a "hangover"- mentally slow, unmotivated, isolated, irritable..and this lasts for weeks or months.
b) The man who switch up his behavior to avoid accepting the fact that he is relapsing. For instance, you stopped watching porn- but you now masturbate to erotica/ sexualized literature including manga. You stopped visiting prostitutes or watch "transwoman" porn, but you often visit their websites to "get a taste".

5) Untreated Trauma or Mental Illness:
You are depressed, but have never been diagnosed or experienced abuse as an adult or child but repressed/ ignored it for years. You are in denial about it and your own "research" ( on the internet, of course) has convinced you that the one therapist who diagnosed you with "x" 8 years ago has no idea what he/she was talking about. "I'm fine now", you tell yourself.
Are you, though? Is the world around you a little crazy- or are you?
Mental illness is no something to be ashamed of. Just like your behavior with porn addiction, it must be addressed.

6) Weak Belief:
You really believe that no matter what you do you will relapse. You do not believe that 100% freedom from pornography is possible.
Your belief is weak because you never maintain the skills and habits (which requires repeated daily practice) long enough to to quit porn for good.

7) Unexpected Events:
Unexpected events could be positive or negative.
Positive events could be a new relationship, new career, a promotion, or having a child. Negative changes could be unemployment, divorce, a break up, death of a loved one, or a serious medical diagnosis.
These changes often lead to a change in your daily routines, disconnection from people who support you and even depression.

Your Brother in this struggle,

J.K Emezi"

 

Very good brother!!! Keep going!!!!

 

Very good brother!! You´re heading for the Ford of Bruinen but porn forces are rentless at your tail. Keep moving!!!

 

15 days my brothers. I´m a Hobbit now and my journey has begun

Here´s an excerpt of "rebooting as the best remedy" from nofap legend soaring eagle. Have a nice day

"All in all, ugliness is a sure byproduct of masturbation. As the age increases, this tendency of becoming ugly will become ever more apparent. Therefore, it’s important to avoid masturbation as much as possible, actively exercise, have timely daily schedules, learn to cultivate the health and accumulate the kidney qi. The cultivation of health and beauty is interconnected, always remember that beauty is not only a product of outer efforts, it is a projection from the inside. TCM: Face is a mirror to the five internal organs. Different areas on the face have their correspondent internal organs. In this season I will share 2 charts on TCM facial mapping, everybody may take a look. In TCM there are specialized areas of facial and color diagnosis. TCM: “Through gazing the illness can be known, through listening the illness can be separated, through asking the cause can be determined, through feeling the organ can be traced.” The truly brilliant TCM physician may understand the state of your five internal organs by just looking at your face, the physician from the story of “Bian Que sees Cai Huan” is such a person; by looking at the face the latent illnesses are made known.

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The 23 forms of ugliness that is linked to masturbation:
1. Acne
2. Balding and grey hair
3. Decadent and full complexion
4. Black eye circles
5. Sunken eye sockets, raised cheekbones
6. Spiritless eyes, messy eyebrow
7. Disorderly teeth, easily loosened
8. Yellowing and frizzing of hair, oily skin
9. Large skin pores, poor complexion, loose skin
10. Lots of wrinkles, thickening of lips
11. Wretched expression, eyes becoming smaller
12. Hunched back, asymmetrical body
13. Change in facial shape (swollen or skinny look)
14. Change in eyelids (double eyelids turning into single eyelids or multiple eyelids)
15. Turbid eyeballs, the appearance of blood vessels
16. Greyish tint to facial color (a ghostly look)
17. Apparently aged look
18. Thin and small bones (issues in development)
19. An evil glint in the eyes, unsteady in the gaze
20. Depression in the solar plexus and in the Adam’s apple
21. Specks on the face, moles
22. Dirty look on the face (very difficult to clean)
23. Marked decline in the aura of the person"