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I wonder if I can ever find the right man for me?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Deleted Account, Feb 22, 2020.

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  1. No ,I won't arrive to this point. I have more than one reason to think of those practices as deviant or just completely repulsive. I don't think I'm stuck on this at all, that is just what having normal preferences means to me.
    Besides, I already know what I want in life. Being a virgin doesn't mean I feel ignorant or insecure in life or that I have apprehention toward sex in general.
    Many people in my homeland lived thier lives without even worrying about oral/anal sex, or even thinking it would bring them any happiness. where I live those two acts aren't encouraged and aren't popularized as they are in the west. liberalism facilitated many unacceptable sexual behaviors that would have been framed as completely deviant or just weird and abnormal.
    I tell you this because i haven't been desensitized enough to reach a point where I'll need exessive stimulation to generate satisfaction. PIV already trigger an arousing response in me, all the rest is either unecessary or completely repulsive.
    That's what having a strong conviction and instinctive sexual preferences mean. The older I get, the more I realize that anything besides PIV intercourse is just the product of conditionning, whether it's done by porn or any type of media, or exceptional societal conditions.
    What I truly desire is a partner with the same boundaries as me, someone who doesn't trigger a disgust response that I'll struggle to keep at bay. I don't really remember how many times I've stated this but it's very important to take into consideration.
     
  2. @ReclaimedLife you can read my previous replies on this thread if you wish to fully understand my convictions. I won't have time to come to this forum for the followinf days. You know what being a college student truly means, it is a busy life. This lockdown is no exception for this general fact.
     
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    I wish you all the best to find your suitable counterpart. I'm super curious what will happen in the next 20 years of your life. Not just with men and sex. Just in general.

    I feel like a scientist taking notes, wanting to come back for his survey to see it's conclusion, without judging the outcome at all.
     
  4. I would avoid being judgemental, @shedernatinus. Oral sex is not your thing, but that doesn't make it insane. Just different.

    Some people enjoy being hit (I know one couple where the man enjoys being "spanked", and his wife enjoys spanking). For me, that's weird and definitely not my thing, but it doesn't make them insane. Just different.

    Some people enjoy anal sex (I know at least one woman who gets intense sexual satisfaction from this). Again, I personally dislike it, but it doesn't make it insane. Just different.

    We need to celebrate our differentness rather than judging it. As long as all acts are consensual between adults, judgement is wholly inappropriate.

    As before, I hope that you find the right man for you. I believe that you will do so in time, if you keep looking.
     
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  5. This is the exact attitude that made porn so inexcusably popular. All members are somehow victims of this neglecting way of viewing life. Let's suppose pro-incest people required the freedom to do as they wish, how would you react to this ?
    I tell people what they I feel they shoud hear.
    Individual freedom isn't the top priority to stabilize families, and whole communities. It shouldn't be given overrrated credits.
    I wouldn't mind if judgement is used, it is an important part of our moral structure and ethics. Without the capacity for judgement, moral codes will dissolve and whole societies and civilzations will collapse. This is what is happening right now in the west. Sadly the worst is yet to happen.
     
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  6. Me too I feel in similar ways toward some people's experiences. I try to learn from their mistakes. Furthermore, I don't think this nofap experience will last sufficiently for you to be able to do that. It's more a phase of discovery for me, than something deeply important.
     
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  7. I know this question wasn't for me, but I would not restrict someone's sexual freedom if it is consensual. I don't see why people shouldn't be free to practice incest. Do you care to elaborate what you think our reaction should be?

    I thought this thread was about sexual preferences, not family relationships. And what do sexual preferences have to do with stabilizing communities?
     
  8. This is the argumebt liberals have been using to facilitate the infiltration of poisonous ideas into the mind of children and young adults. There is a documentary called ' incest the last taboo'. Where many proudly affirm having sexual relationships with nuclear family members. I'll let you guess the agenda behind this. You will understand the importance of judgement in preventing this.
     
  9. I didn't expect any less from you. The opposite would have been surprising.
     
  10. I don't see why we should prevent incest, or why it is poisonous, or why there must be an agenda behind it.
     
  11. You forgot to say "love is love and should be celebrated no matter what"
     
  12. @Mordobarn this is something alarming isn't it ?
     
  13. I don't know if it has anything to do with love. I think some people just think it's fun.
     
  14. Yeah. Sure.
     
  15. alarmist
    [əˈlärməst]
    NOUN
    1. someone who is considered to be exaggerating a danger and so causing needless worry or panic.
     
  16. Thanks to liberalism for liberating everyone's inner demons
     
  17. Did you have an experience with incest ?
     
  18. No, but I know people who have.
     
  19. This is what crossed my mind. You wouldn't advocate for something just out of the blue. Unless it's to give yourself some inner peace or to those you know and maybe care about.
     
  20. I don't know if I advocate for it. I just don't think it's inherently wrong. I don't advocate eating dirt but I don't see anything wrong with it.
     

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