What i now write is not related to pmo but somehow it is I realised that what i did once with pmo i am doing with other things as well. It is subtle but this is a big one: I am edging in imagination. I daydream and go through situations in my mind alot And luckily i mean not anything sexual, that with my whole being i now leave to real life only. But as i said there are other things and sitations i go through in imagination alot. I think about how i could have done things different in the past or will do, feel or behave in certain sitations in the future. Instead of being in the moment and actually living i am somewhere else. This is going to end. All the fake enjoyment i get outof imagination i no longer appreciate. Although it is be risky, if my body wants experiences it has to be out there. MOVIE THEATER OF THE MIND WATCHED CLOSELY AND ABOUT TO BE SHUT DOWN Now i wanted to proceed and watch an anime, but wether it is listening to a entertaining show, podcast, watching something those are all imiginative substitutes for having actuall exchanges and life experiences youself watching sport? Go do the sport youself. See cool anime were main character doesnt give a shit and does cool stuff? Go do that youself. Yes it mightbe risky and when one does those things they are not safe and predetermined, but that can make it even more fun. with every thing you see on screen is predetermined, you and what you do doesnt matter. Theory: If you dont get rid of all imaginative substitutes you fail nofap long term so i am thinking about opening a no imaginative substitute challenge no i admit that i will watch the anime now, but be assured, i will keep above observation in my mind, and slowly but surely will implement it. Small steps away from imaginative substitute sensations, like with pmo i have to do it with my whole being not just in my mind. Thanks for reading, good luck to all 6/90
Another relapse this morning, I really need to find a way to get past mornings, has anyone got any suggestions, normally if i get past it im fine but its been so difficult to shake the habit.
Day 1. I joined this forum 239 days ago. Of those 239 days, I was 208 days without M’ing to or watching P.
I think the project you're undertaking is a noble one and if you succeed, it will have a huge effect on your life. I don't know if it will be feasible to entirely quit engaging in tv and virtual realities like that, let alone quit fantasizing. It's a very good idea to start being more aware and more mindful and try to engage in it less and less, but to set a challenge where you don't do any of that for an X number of days I think would set you up for failure, because it's impossible to go cold turkey on that from one moment to the next. But perhaps I underestimate you!
If the problem is connected to a certain time frame, try to radically change your routine for that time frame. So for example, if you tend to do PMO in the morning while lying in bed with your phone, then I would suggest to start keeping your phone not in your bedroom but outside of it, then set an alarm so you have to get out of bed to shut the alarm and as soon as you're out of the bed, do a short meditation, followed by some workout and finish with a cold shower. If you have a routine like that to follow, it'll take you out of your current patterns.
The first thing is your Will to quit, and by joining this challenge you showed that you want to quit. What remains is just the moment which you decide (or your mind want to convince you) to do PMO, at this moment you should try to stop thinking about it by any means, which in fact is hard. Be aware that the process is slowly and you may relapse in mean time, but it is very important to stay in, persist, and start over again and again. So I would suggest to create habits for your mornings: - If you do relapse every morning, then you should go out of your home (or wherever you do PMO) mornings. Make a plan to do something out of your home (like, go to gym, study at LIBRARY, go out with friends and afternoon go home). Remember, at the first step it does not matter what you do, what matter is that you want to quit PMO, after some days you can plan what to do. - if you don't have a job try to find a simple one, this will force you go out of your home and you will have some kind of habit for your mornings It is very important that you don't allow your mind to have a time to think about PMO. The aim is that your mind automatically know what should be done in mornings. This is possible when you have some sort of activity which give you responsibilities or at least you feel responsible for doing it, by taking those responsibilities (challenges) then your mind will forget about PMO slowly. Head up and keep going, you can do this man, ...
One thing that helps for me is to set myself short goals. For example, if I have strong urges at 9:00, I'll set myself a goal to make it to 10:00, or whatever time feels achievable for me. By 10:00 the urge will have subsided, or if it comes back I can set myself a goal to make it to 11:00. The point is to make the goal something I feel I can achieve at that time. Keep trying! You're here, making the effort and can do it!